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I think I have my doubts regarding a new acquaintance (guy) who seems very affectionate lately. Attempt of physical contact (hands on my shoulders), whispering things in my ear (not romantic things) , nudges, winks, trying to be funny, suggestions (indirect) to go out, curiosity about my personal life... I am a bit confused, because something inside of me thinks that he is being honest and at the same time I have doubts about the honesty of his actions...Guys/girls ...what would be your experience on this matter??
Thanks
He sounds playful...or he sounds seductive, like a man who enjoys pursuing and conquering women. Talk to him. Let him know you want to know why he does those things. Is he attracted to you romantically? That's the only way you can tell for sure. If he wasn't trying to seduce you, he would be talking and acting differently around you. For one thing, he would be more interested in talking than touching. This would indicate that he is interested in you as a person, not as a fling.
He sounds playful...or he sounds seductive, like a man who enjoys pursuing and conquering women. Talk to him. Let him know you want to know why he does those things. Is he attracted to you romantically? That's the only way you can tell for sure. If he wasn't trying to seduce you, he would be talking and acting differently around you. For one thing, he would be more interested in talking than touching. This would indicate that he is interested in you as a person, not as a fling.
And the last thing was him sending e-mails daily, always suggesting a date but not directly...for instance...do you frequently walk around X beach? or do you usually roller skate or something of the like. He is a very outdoortsy kind of guy and it seems that he wants me to like the things he likes, never asked me ..what do you do for fun or what do you like to do...I kind of answered in a humorous/ semi-sarcastic way and haven't heard of him in a few days... Did he get offended or is he testing the waters...to see if I show interest or if I am desperate to communicate with him??? No way...I don't know what his intention is..seriously
And the last thing was him sending e-mails daily, always suggesting a date but not directly...for instance...do you frequently walk around X beach? or do you usually roller skate or something of the like. He is a very outdoortsy kind of guy and it seems that he wants me to like the things he likes, never asked me ..what do you do for fun or what do you like to do...I kind of answered in a humorous/ semi-sarcastic way and haven't heard of him in a few days... Did he get offended or is he testing the waters...to see if I show interest or if I am desperate to communicate with him??? No way...I don't know what his intention is..seriously
And the last thing was him sending e-mails daily, always suggesting a date but not directly...for instance...do you frequently walk around X beach? or do you usually roller skate or something of the like. He is a very outdoortsy kind of guy and it seems that he wants me to like the things he likes, never asked me ..what do you do for fun or what do you like to do...I kind of answered in a humorous/ semi-sarcastic way and haven't heard of him in a few days... Did he get offended or is he testing the waters...to see if I show interest or if I am desperate to communicate with him??? No way...I don't know what his intention is..seriously
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Originally Posted by temptation001
Sounds like he realized you don't like him.
It could be but if he's a player, it will barely faze him and he'll be back in a few days like nothing happened. Or he'll move on. If he's not a player, it's possible that you really did hurt his feelings.
Ahhh, players. They're everywhere. I've seen an unusually high amount of them here in Tampa. I've found that latin men are the best at this game.
As far as distinguishing between the two? Is he only interested in going out for drinks when he goes out on dates? = most likely a player. I found the best way to test in the beginning is to maybe like the 2nd or 3rd date to go somewhere quiet, semi-secluded, and see if he pushes for sex. Like a playground or something.
Any guy that can't keep it in his pants for that long probably isn't worth it anyways.
Update: guy asked me out for lunch. I accepted but during the date he was not playful or flirty, but really serious. It seemed strange to me that he acted like a different person. Talked a lot about his life, asked me a few questions about mine and not too much eye contact either. Anyways, i received a second invite to the movies, but I did not feel real interest on the first date, so I asked him: are we seeing each other as friends? He replied: yes we are. I told him that if that is the case< i will not be interested in going out with him, but we could remain friendly. His texts stopped, no more e-mails.... I don't understand??? Guy showed interest of wanting to be more than friends, super flirty, then tells me we are seeing each other as friends, and then when i tell him I'm ok being just friends stops all communication??
Update: guy asked me out for lunch. I accepted but during the date he was not playful or flirty, but really serious. It seemed strange to me that he acted like a different person. Talked a lot about his life, asked me a few questions about mine and not too much eye contact either. Anyways, i received a second invite to the movies, but I did not feel real interest on the first date, so I asked him: are we seeing each other as friends? He replied: yes we are. I told him that if that is the case< i will not be interested in going out with him, but we could remain friendly. His texts stopped, no more e-mails.... I don't understand??? Guy showed interest of wanting to be more than friends, super flirty, then tells me we are seeing each other as friends, and then when i tell him I'm ok being just friends stops all communication??
Maybe he thought you were not serious and lost interest.
Ahhh, players. They're everywhere. I've seen an unusually high amount of them here in Tampa. I've found that latin men are the best at this game.
As far as distinguishing between the two? Is he only interested in going out for drinks when he goes out on dates? = most likely a player. I found the best way to test in the beginning is to maybe like the 2nd or 3rd date to go somewhere quiet, semi-secluded, and see if he pushes for sex. Like a playground or something.
Any guy that can't keep it in his pants for that long probably isn't worth it anyways.
What is it about Tampa that attracts them? This major player I know has moved there & also another guy that used to ask me out all the time also moved there....
What is it about Tampa that attracts them? This major player I know has moved there & also another guy that used to ask me out all the time also moved there....
Tampa is a major city that has lots of attractions.
It also probably has a boomin' dating scene, which is prime for playas to hit it big.
Chitown has places, too, but it also gets really cold during the later months, which could also drive potential playas away.
I don't really know. I'm speaking in tongues I honestly haven't spoken before. LOL
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