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Old 07-28-2011, 01:30 AM
 
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....I have a chance with you for a relationship?

Is this ok to do and common?

How about a guy asking this to a girl or vice versa?
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Old 07-28-2011, 03:43 AM
 
Location: Tampa (by way of Omaha)
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Lots of variables and context come into play, but asking "Do I have a chance for a relationship with you" displays about zero confidence and probably won't get you great results.
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Old 07-28-2011, 04:45 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Default many variables here...

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....I have a chance with you for a relationship?

Is this ok to do and common?

How about a guy asking this to a girl or vice versa?
If asked right away it would seem over whelming..

Texas... if you ask this after a few weeks of dating I believe the woman would be honest and let you know... it would be refreshing to have a man care enough to ask instead of the game "act like you don't give a sh*t" How does this show lack of confidence to inquire if there is any future with this relationship? (if that is the intent)...

Because men and women communicate and react so differently... being direct and upfront would show me that this is a unique individual... take the guessing and games out of it... PLEASE...
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Old 07-28-2011, 04:53 AM
 
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Lol it sounds like a feasability report.
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Old 07-28-2011, 05:39 AM
 
Location: US
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I think its ok if they are not with someone. Common? I dunno...stranger things can happen but I always thought it was cute to hear. Even if it wasn't going to go anywhere its still a nice compliment.
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Old 07-28-2011, 05:58 AM
 
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"No, you have no chance with me" sounds stuck-up and mean.
"Yes, you have a chance with me" sounds like you're throwing the dog a bone.
Neither is good. Bad question to ask.
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Old 07-28-2011, 06:12 AM
 
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I would rephrase that question.

Using the word "chance" implies that you feel you do not deserve this person.

Perhaps saying "I'd be interested in pursuing a relationship with you" and then wait for her response. That would seem less desperate.
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Old 07-28-2011, 07:25 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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how about... "I'd love to spend more time with you and get to know you better"... "I really enjoy your company" or "you make me smile when I think of you"...
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Old 07-28-2011, 07:26 AM
 
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"No, you have no chance with me" sounds stuck-up and mean.
"Yes, you have a chance with me" sounds like you're throwing the dog a bone.
Neither is good. Bad question to ask.
This^^.
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Old 07-28-2011, 07:32 AM
 
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Asking makes you sound desperate and hopeless.

Maybe we should march on over to namby pamby land and getting yourself some self confidence.

Amazing what would happen if you possessed some confidence instead of being a whining little sniveler who has to ask he has a chance. If I was the opposite sex and someone asked me that, I'd fall over laughing at you, right to your face.
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