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Old 11-07-2011, 08:48 AM
 
Location: USA
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Originally Posted by Urban Sasquatch View Post
On one hand mixed nationalities CAN feasibly cause problems... IF the nationality issue is especially important to one or both of the parties, in which case it's far, far less about "nationality" and a LOT more about inflexibility.
I see it as being a big issue when people immigrate here from 3rd world countries and have an expectation that they and their children will some how maintain archaic tribal customs from their home country that run counter to our laws.
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Old 11-07-2011, 09:33 PM
 
Location: Mississippi
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Just like any relationship, sometimes they work, sometimes they don't.

By best friend married a Korean guy and they experienced serious issues due to cultural differences, eventually divorcing. They couldn't agree on anything, disagreed about each partner's responsibilities (she was supposed to quit work and stay home), had communication barriers...they even argued about what to eat (he wouldn't eat her cooking b/c it wasn't Korean). It was neverending disagreement. But they should have sorted that out before getting hitched.

I'm American and my husband is from Mexico, but we have never had any issues pertaining to that (except that immigration paperwork sucks). But I guess it helps that we're both bilingual, both our families live nearby and are very supportive, and we are pretty openminded about other cultures.
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Old 11-07-2011, 10:20 PM
 
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I see it as being a big issue when people immigrate here from 3rd world countries and have an expectation that they and their children will some how maintain archaic tribal customs from their home country that run counter to our laws.
Funny, because right below your comment is a comment where one of the spouses has come from Mexico, a supposedly third world country as you claimed in your ignorant post. I wonder how it worked out for the other poster then, since it shouldn't work according to your definition.

Also, what are some of those archaic tribal customs? Care to elabore?
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Old 11-08-2011, 01:31 AM
 
Location: Europe, in the Land of the mean
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I think he means honour killings, forced marriages, etc. They do happen, you know. Or expecting your wife to just shut her mouth and open her legs because that's what his Neanderthal family/culture demands.
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Old 11-08-2011, 06:39 AM
 
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I think he means honour killings, forced marriages, etc. They do happen, you know. Or expecting your wife to just shut her mouth and open her legs because that's what his Neanderthal family/culture demands.
We have the law of the land that prosecutes such people, I hardly find them happening here in the USA for the most part except of course in exceptional cases.
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Old 11-08-2011, 12:12 PM
 
Location: USA
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I think he means honour killings, forced marriages, etc. They do happen, you know. Or expecting your wife to just shut her mouth and open her legs because that's what his Neanderthal family/culture demands.
There are many examples of people immigrating here and violate are laws and expect us to give into theyre traditions even if they are illegal.

Did I say Mexico? I think not. I'm not sure why people junp on here and procede to call someones post ignorant and procede to post something ignorant
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Old 11-08-2011, 05:44 PM
 
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Just like any relationship, sometimes they work, sometimes they don't.

By best friend married a Korean guy and they experienced serious issues due to cultural differences, eventually divorcing. They couldn't agree on anything, disagreed about each partner's responsibilities (she was supposed to quit work and stay home), had communication barriers...they even argued about what to eat (he wouldn't eat her cooking b/c it wasn't Korean). It was neverending disagreement. But they should have sorted that out before getting hitched.

I'm American and my husband is from Mexico, but we have never had any issues pertaining to that (except that immigration paperwork sucks). But I guess it helps that we're both bilingual, both our families live nearby and are very supportive, and we are pretty openminded about other cultures.
Crazy!! what stupid things [people fight about. Seriously? food. She should have told him to make his own ****ing food. I am Korean too and I hear that **** all the time. Did your friend and her korean husband work it out.
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Old 11-08-2011, 05:49 PM
 
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I understand why some people would stick to their own races and marry. It makes sense but still sucks. I have grown up with a diverse racial background. I actually prefer dating outside my race than my own race. Yes I am Korean but I was born in the us. But I dated a asian guy who eventually got married to another asian girl. I was actually crushed when I heard he got married.

Parents are the reasons why some couples break up. Especially if you are Asian dating outside his or her race.
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Old 11-08-2011, 06:12 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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Just like any relationship, sometimes they work, sometimes they don't.

By best friend married a Korean guy and they experienced serious issues due to cultural differences, eventually divorcing. They couldn't agree on anything, disagreed about each partner's responsibilities (she was supposed to quit work and stay home), had communication barriers...they even argued about what to eat (he wouldn't eat her cooking b/c it wasn't Korean). It was neverending disagreement. But they should have sorted that out before getting hitched.

I'm American and my husband is from Mexico, but we have never had any issues pertaining to that (except that immigration paperwork sucks). But I guess it helps that we're both bilingual, both our families live nearby and are very supportive, and we are pretty openminded about other cultures.
Did they date a week and never talk? How do you end up married and find out one partner will only eat one type of food, or that they expected you to quit working.
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Old 11-08-2011, 06:16 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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Funny, because right below your comment is a comment where one of the spouses has come from Mexico, a supposedly third world country as you claimed in your ignorant post. I wonder how it worked out for the other poster then, since it shouldn't work according to your definition.

Also, what are some of those archaic tribal customs? Care to elabore?

I live in a state mostly of minorities, a good deal from third world countries. And it can be quite trying at times, because a lot of them don't want to integrate.

15 people to a house, huge parties, drinking on the sidewalk in front of neighbors houses, yard's that look like dump sites, spitting in public.

One night one of those lovely homes had a party-goer wander down by my house. Stupid A peed on my SOs tire at the top of my driveway. He was quite surprised when he discovered my SO in the vehicle.
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