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It is not zero; it can work if the two parties are willing to make it work AND one of them can move at some point in time like you had said. IT takes special people and a special love and money for it to work, but it does happen. I know of more than two couples who this happened to, and two of those were international meetings that ended up in marriages. The net has made the world smaller, and people are finding TRUE love in all kinds of places.
And as a side note, one thing that I have noticed on this forum is that a lot of people who respond in this section are negative in their responses...and almost bitter. And due to that, I am sure not too many people will say this is "doable", but I do see it happening if the couple does have a plan and does have some money. BUT with that said, with today's economy, it would harder than when all the ones I know about happened.
It is not zero; it can work if the two parties are willing to make it work AND one of them can move at some point in time like you had said. IT takes special people and a special love and money for it to work, but it does happen. I know of more than two couples who this happened to, and two of those were international meetings that ended up in marriages. The net has made the world smaller, and people are finding TRUE love in all kinds of places.
And as a side note, one thing that I have noticed on this forum is that a lot of people who respond in this section are negative in their responses...and almost bitter. And due to that, I am sure not too many people will say this is "doable", but I do see it happening if the couple does have a plan and does have some money. BUT with that said, with today's economy, it would harder than when all the ones I know about happened.
I think the bitter part comes to play because of the extra challenges show what one person will do and the other won't. If you lived 10 mins away, it's easy for both to visit the other. But when it comes to long distance, you're probably going to see that one will make noticeably more effort than the other. One is spending more on travel than the other. One stays home to make a call, but the other goes out. One will move away from friends and family and the other won't. If you were in the same town, none of that would be an issue.
The think to keep in mind isn't that some LDRs work out, but rather how many.
There have been a few posters here that have really nice stories about how it worked out for them, but what you have to do is consider how rare this is.
From my experience, first and second hand, it's very rare.
The problem is that to build a relationship that is deep enough for marriage requires a massive amount of communication. You have to get to know each other in so many different ways. And you just can't do that when all you have is 2 hours on the phone, 4-5 days a week. The phone is great for making dates, telling jokes, etc, but you must spend face time with someone to really get to know them. Otherwise, you might as well just pull out the Russian Mail Order bride and pick one at random and hope it works out.
A part of the problem is that when you have less than full communication, like texting and emails and short phone calls, you don't get the full picture. But it's human nature to fill in the blanks. And that human nature tends to fill them in with what YOU want, not what they are. This is why so many LDRs I've seen have exploded. There were substantial mis-communications buried and never resolved until too late.
If your goal is to sleep with many women and date many at the same time with little chance of getting caught, then LDR's have a high success of working out.
If you plan to get married, then no, they won't work
I met my husband online, I was living in Australia and he was living in the US. He moved to Australia to be with me then I moved to the US with him. Almost 7 years later we're still happy together. It certainly wasn't an easy path though. Moving countries is expensive and time consuming. We did it for love though.
How beautiful; that's awesome and amazing to hear Djuna, thx for sharing!! And I truly hope that you guys many, many more, happy and joyful years together
I've know of only 2 long distance relationships where they met online that lasted. Both were willing and able to relocate and both were looking for marriage in the not to distant future. Both had one party move withing a few months of meeting and both got married.
But I'm thinking this is very rare. It's just 2 couples out of many many more couples who met locally.
As for me I wouldn't even entertain the idea. I wouldn't message someone from more than an hour away and especially not a plane ride away. I don't see the point to start an uphill battle,when there are so many choices locally. What do you think?
Except if you happen to live in D.C., where the the abundance of single and available quality love matches is abysmal and totally sux
Give me an LDR with a nice out-of-state gal any day, over the likes of the local opposite gender selection! Seriously, the prospects of actually finding a good relationship match here if as a guy you're not already independently wealthy and pulling at least $150k a year, are a 9-10 in looks, or have "family money", drive a BMW or better, and own a luxury house on top of that, are completely down the tubes
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Except if you happen to live in D.C., where the the abundance of single and available quality love matches is abysmal and totally sux
Give me an LDR with a nice out-of-state gal any day, over the likes of the local opposite gender selection! Seriously, the prospects of actually finding a good relationship match here if as a guy you're not already independently wealthy and pulling at least $150k a year, are a 9-10 in looks, or have "family money", drive a BMW or better, and own a luxury house on top of that, are completely down the tubes
I know DC is a little different as far as demographics go, but I can't imagine there aren't any naive and poor 18-year-olds in the whole surrounding area!
I met my husband online, I was living in Australia and he was living in the US. He moved to Australia to be with me then I moved to the US with him. Almost 7 years later we're still happy together. It certainly wasn't an easy path though. Moving countries is expensive and time consuming. We did it for love though.
I've know of only 2 long distance relationships where they met online that lasted. Both were willing and able to relocate and both were looking for marriage in the not to distant future. Both had one party move withing a few months of meeting and both got married.
But I'm thinking this is very rare. It's just 2 couples out of many many more couples who met locally.
As for me I wouldn't even entertain the idea. I wouldn't message someone from more than an hour away and especially not a plane ride away. I don't see the point to start an uphill battle, when there are so many choices locally. What do you think?
You are right if there are many choices locally for you. For some people, it's hard to find a good match locally. They don't have a choice.
I think relationships online should work just like the ones where you meet in a bar. Internet is just an extra way of meeting.
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And I truly hope that you guys many, many more, happy and joyful years together 
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