I'm I really conceited and if so is that a terrible trait to have? (attractive, friend)

[PurpleTulip18]

It's not what you say, it's how you say it.

I'm very blunt / direct myself but I present it in a matter that isn't offensive to people I talk to or friends. Damn Goffman and his impression management.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by Yzette

She likes what she likes but she has no tact.

Sunflower, the world doesn't give a rat's arse what you like. Seriously. If you can't say something nice, or you can't express your tastes in a way that is not snotty, condescending, insulting, hurtful, or offensive to others, shut up.

Oh, was that tactless of me? Tsk. I thought I was being straightforward and direct.

Yeah this. She has no earthly clue about humility or tact.

[Drover]

Yes and yes. Either that or you're a skilled troll.

[captaincatfish]

Originally Posted by Northside904

I echo what everyone said. You're like Khloe Kardashian, you have no filter and say whatever's on your mind even if it makes you look like a fool and hurts someone else. If I was him, I'd tell you "Until you buy my wardrobe, shove it. I like what I like. Period."

I'm about as straightforward and (as Northside calls me LOL) hard-nosed as they come...I will tell it like it is in a New York minute...but that hard-nosed side of me does come with tact---there's a way to talk to people and get your point across, and even in most cases to offer constructive criticism, without sounding snarky and condescending about it...

You should count yourself lucky that your friend, and others you may have encountered, didn't get offended by, or chose to ignore, what you said...as others here have said, you are an adult, and you like what you like, and such is your right...however, you do NOT possess the right to get a crick in your neck from having your nose elevated 24/7, simply because you feel the need to wave your preferences in other folks' faces and then put down theirs because you have a sudden bout of undeserved superiority...

Suggestion? Take a crash course in tact and humility with the quickness, because the time may come when you play Mr/Mrs Upsnoot around the wrong folks, and you may not like the backlash you receive...just sayin'

[heetseeker]

Wait a minute Sketchers is a good shoe? They certainly have you fooled.

[jifwittle]

I don't necessarily think that we can control how we judge other people in our own minds, but we can control how we respond to those internal judgments. If you can't think of a nice way to say something, then you should ask yourself if it is really important for you to say at all.

Conceit is not flattering on anyone, especially if you don't have the intellect to back it up.

[yayoi]

Yeah OP it's a bad trait. Your friend didn't ask for your opinion so you should have kept your yapper shut.

[Broncos Quarterback]

I thought conceited meant that you think you're better than everyone. Anyway, I don't see anything wrong with the behavior exhibited in the OP. Picky, sure. Opinionated, yeah, but you can be that way with a good friend.

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by Sunflower_lol

It's been a long while since being absent from this site... anyways....

It was my male childhood friend (let's call him J) that recently told me I'm like that sometimes or a bit greedy.

I think this was after how once him and some co-workers were eating breakfast and said I can joined in. I was straight forward saying I don't eat eggs stained with sausage and how I don't like anything. Or the time someone said how come I go for the cheaper menu at my work instead of buying expensive chinese food.. and I said ''Because I simply don't... I'm into complicated dishes not simple ones I freely eat at home.

Or how J stated explaining the places he goes eating. I just was straight forward about how crappy & unhealthy it is and how I only go on specific places (if I recalled, I kinda found it somewhat funny when he told me those places so I laughed a bit)... then went on explaining that usually foods that cost more are better in quality. The truth is he got sick a couple days ago from eating junk.

Honestly there are only 2 things I'm very picky on.
1) Food... I'll go out of my way to try different plates not many eat which is more expensive but I don't care
2) When it comes to Sneakers... I only like sketchers, new balance, reebox, nike, or puma... not some cheap sneaker with no brand on it (ex: Payless Shoes store... unless I was terribly poor)

So it's straight forward you like? Ok, I'll just say it; there's a way to convey your feelings/likes/dislikes without seemingly putting down other's choices. The way you go about it sounds very high and mighty. Great way to repell company you'd rather do without. Not a good way to keep people around you like.

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by EuroTrashed

Maybe conceitedness is not the problem but straight forwardness is. People may take offense in it.

Straight forward isn't even a problem. It's straight forward if her opinion was sought. But when your opinion is uninvited and insulting it's something else entirely.

Many of these threads could be prevented if the OP would stop and ask themselves, What if this were happening to me, if someone were treating me like this, how would I see it?

And, yes, conceited--if that were the problem here--would be a terrible trait. If you're conceited you don't need my love. You love yourself enough for both of us. Enjoy yourself.