Please help sadist boyfriend? (dating, marrying, girl, love)
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I have a friend who met a new guy after a break up he seems like an all american just finished a tour in the army and is coming home to see her.nice family seems like a dream come true for her. hes done a few jealous things like contact and threaten guys on her facebook and shes caught him talking to a girl he liked after lying for days.
He cried and told her he loved her and wouldn't do it again. she believes him. when she asked to see his inbox he outright refused and said he would go over it with her when he came back. a little history of them.
They started dating three months ago at week 2 he told her he was in love with her and has been talking bout coming home and marrying her getting a home and having kids. seems like the nicest guy although when she asked him to see his Facebook page while they were video chatting he started throwing things around and crying saying he didn't do anything but still refused to show inbox-- he has been lying about trivial things my friend says they are just little white lies. She is in this weird state of denial and I don't know what to say to assist her. Heres where it gets really creepy and scary.
she had a night mare that he killed her and she asked him about it. he sent her a sad face (they were on skype video) and then said I had a dream too.then he started staring at her and says " i had a dream too where we were cutting each other while making love." he just sat there looking at her. when she didn't over react he said. Would you like to do something like that sometime... (WTF) He then went on to tell her he wanted to choke her while they made love urinate on her and also said he wanted to have sex in a cemetery!!!!!!!! She doesn't like any of that stuff at all - AND WHY DID HER MENTIONING A DREAM OF BIENG MURDERED BY HIM BRING HIM TO SEX!!!???
she told me when he said that it scared her but now shes minimizing it saying everyone has fetishes.
But he sold her a dream when they met and told her that he would show her the world and showered her with love . Her last relationship of 5 years her boyfriend was unemotional and cold and to her he never showed enough love and it devastated her.
This guy comes along seems normal hes in the army family has money she met his parents they like her ( her parents died and her ex didn't have any for the same reason)he has a trip to paris planned when he comes back and she knows he lies cheats and has a sexual appetite that is disconcerting at best. I am writing for advice because i think she is blinded by something and isn't seeing what she should be concerned about.
she wont ask anyone else about it because shes afraid that if she stays with him she doesn't want anyone to know his issues. or that shes afraid theyll tell her the truth that she should run.
Please let me know what advice you would give to her and maybe those words can help me. And what kind of person has sexual desires to choke cut pee on their spouse and why on earth would someone want to have sex in a cemetery is it a control thing with the dead I don't get it please HELP!! IM afraid for her ...... What are these signs pointing to
Im thinking so far compulsive liar, manipulative,jealous,controlling Sadist???
im hoping that's not the case im going to keep trying - have you ever heard of anything like this before? first for me
Not to get on a high horse, but I don't associate with this sort of scum.
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scared for her
