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Old 10-12-2011, 09:53 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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And a man can't BE the man by staying at home and taking care of the kids?
Not a man I want. That was the question, if I'm not mistaken. Besides, I don't have or plan on having kids.
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Old 10-12-2011, 09:57 AM
 
Location: Virginia Beach
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It means I want a man; I don't want to BE the man.
And unless working while the husband is a stay at home magically grants you male genitalia, you won't BE the man.

Gender roles are dead, and idiotic.
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Old 10-12-2011, 09:57 AM
 
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I could get used to that scenario, as long as the SAH hubs is still good for interesting, funny conversation and makes me feel like a woman in the sack.

Whether he is a hunk or not shouldn't matter--so I am not sure why that was in there.
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Old 10-12-2011, 10:06 AM
 
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No Jefferson Darcy for me, thanks. I want to be taken care of financially, not the other way around.
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Old 10-12-2011, 10:08 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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And unless working while the husband is a stay at home magically grants you male genitalia, you won't BE the man.

Gender roles are dead, and idiotic.
I'm not arguing the premise at all. You can be a stay-at-home drag queen for all I care. The OP asked how each one of us feels about it.
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Old 10-12-2011, 10:43 AM
 
Location: Blah
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Been there and done that, even got a closest full of t-shirts....although I made more than 40k.

The wife got sick right after our son was born. So I quit work for 3-4 years to help with them and the house etc. She had gotten well long before then but I continued the stay at home husband thing until our son was able to start school. Then we hired someone to help my with misc things around the house and I found another job. Now for all you guys with the idea that being a stay at home dad is great. It's harder than it sounds. I tip my hat to house wives and working mothers, I honestly don't see how you do it! Anyhow, I continue to work despite the wife making more than me. It gives me something to do.
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Old 10-12-2011, 10:44 AM
 
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No Jefferson Darcy for me, thanks. I want to be taken care of financially, not the other way around.
And the second I want the same as you do,(Im a man) it's all of a sudden blasphemy.... What on Earth clicks in your mind to make you feel that such expectation (to be taken care of financially) is righteous or legitimate?? And women wonder why marriage is dead... Get a job.
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Old 10-12-2011, 10:47 AM
 
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Is he gay? Just a question not an insult. I mean cooking, cleaning, museum, doesn't want to bring home the bacon? It could and has happened.
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Old 10-12-2011, 12:08 PM
 
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And a man can't BE the man by staying at home and taking care of the kids?
Nope.
Where I'm from we call that a woman.
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Old 10-12-2011, 12:18 PM
 
Location: Oxnard, CA
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Shoot, if I had kids....and I was married...this would be a dream...I think I could go for this as long as the man is actually contributing positively to the household i.e. picking up the kids, fixing dinner, going to PTA meetings, cleaning the house, etc....
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