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"One does wonder how innate exclusivity and monogamy is to us."
It's not. It's almost purely a societal influence. There have been civilizations throughout history where this is the norm and their societies have not suffered for it.
Its societal conditioning that say's that it is unacceptable. It is our conditioning that prevents us from believing that it doesn't or can’t work. The exact same arguments that are used for the GLBT community apply here. It basically boils down to what transpires between 2 or 3 adults is their own business.
Like Ive said, this life style is not for me, but it is not my place to tell consenting adults what they can and can not do.
But throughout history can you honestly say that all people were treated equally?
So how can you be so sure that it occurred between two consenting adults then?
But throughout history can you honestly say that all people were treated equally?
So how can you be so sure that it occurred between two consenting adults then?
"But throughout history can you honestly say that all people were treated equally?" Can you say they were not? I look at how badly many monogamous relationships are as proven by a 50% divorce rate. That evidence tells me that monogamous relationships don't work.
"So how can you be so sure that it occurred between two consenting adults then" Can't prove it either way with out doing an in depth study. But I'm sure there have been societies where they were consenting and some were not. Just like a single couple relationship, there are many cultures with arranged marriages where I'm sure both parties were not consensual.
Not my thing but if others can pull it off more power to them. I imagine it takes a lot of nerve to get past all the jealousy issues bound to come up in that kind of relationship.
I've read about it but I never figured anyone would actually know someone who does it. Know what I mean?
Are kids involved or planned?
That's too much work. A relationship with one person is enough work but trying to balance another person(s)? I can't ever believe it's more than just physical.
I've read about it but I never figured anyone would actually know someone who does it. Know what I mean?
Are kids involved or planned?
That's too much work. A relationship with one person is enough work but trying to balance another person(s)? I can't ever believe it's more than just physical.
"I've read about it but I never figured anyone would actually know someone who does it. Know what I mean?"
Read the thread, more than one person on CD has been in this type of relationship! Let the people who have been there speak to the matter of it being purely physical.
Can you say they were not? I look at how badly many monogamous relationships are as proven by a 50% divorce rate. That evidence tells me that monogamous relationships don't work.
It's pretty obvious isn't it? Throughout history people were enslaved and treated like lower class citizens. Women mostly had no or little rights back then - can you prove that they willingly went into those types of relationships?
You can't use history to say that polygamous relationships worked better because people didn't have the choices that they do today (at least in modern American society).
"I've read about it but I never figured anyone would actually know someone who does it. Know what I mean?"
Read the thread, more than one person on CD has been in this type of relationship! Let the people who have been there speak to the matter of it being purely physical.
That's my own opinion and to ME I think it would be a more physical thing. I'm not saying it IS but I'm saying I would think it is because it's a lot of work.
I think you can love more than one person but to me I say why commit? Just be casual with everyone. Don't have a "claim" boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, etc.
I say more power to you if you do it and if it's more than physical because emotions with one person is a handful alone. Adding more in the mix is whoa.
I don't believe that humans are inherently monogamous. If we were, we'd mate for life the first time we had sex, and any urges or attraction toward others would disappear with that first boom-boom, like with several species of birds. I think human monogamy is a product of society and religion, and as such, is a contrivance.
That said, one man is all I can stand!
Also, I have to say that I find the comments on this thread that go along the lines of "I don't share what's mine" to be a bit unpleasant in their dehumanization and objectification, like you own someone. People are not "whats." They are "whos." They are not property, they do not "belong to" anyone but themselves, and they are not yours to possess.
Last edited by Yzette; 10-13-2011 at 10:53 PM..
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and to ME I think it would be a more physical thing. I'm not saying it IS but I'm saying I would think it is because it's a lot of work.
