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Old 10-20-2011, 11:59 AM
 
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My friend Ella had a relationship with a guy over 10 years ago. She told me that he contacted her via Facebook over the weekend. She asked me if I thought it was some kind of booty call. I don't know what to tell her.

Ella and this guy had an intense sexual relationship while he was married and she was single. Now apparently he is divorced (he contacted her on the day his divorce was finalized) and she is the one who has been married for 6 years. Why would he contact her? I'm sure the guy was not hurting for sex, since he was nice looking back in the day.

Does this guy have feelings for her or just wanting her to be his booty call again? What do I tell her, that he cares for her? Or is simple trying to get back in bed with her?

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Old 10-20-2011, 12:15 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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My friend Ella had a relationship with a guy over 10 years ago. She told me that he contacted her via Facebook over the weekend. She asked me if I thought it was some kind of booty call. I don't know what to tell her.

Ella and this guy had an intense sexual relationship while he was married and she was single. Now apparently he is divorced (he contacted her on the day his divorce was finalized) and she is the one who has been married for 6 years. Why would he contact her? I'm sure the guy was not hurting for sex, since he was nice looking back in the day.

Does this guy have feelings for her or just wanting her to be his booty call again? What do I tell her, that he cares for her? Or is simple trying to get back in bed with her?
A booty call after 10 years?! Are you serious? Nobody's that desperate. And he contacted her the day his divorce was finalized to boot! Pretty fair and square, particularly after having had an affair before... Obviously, he's quite interested in her. Unfortunately, now she's married...
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Old 10-20-2011, 12:52 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Unfortunately, now she's married...
What do you think you need to tell your friend? Perhaps a *reminder* that she is still maried!
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Old 10-20-2011, 01:02 PM
 
Location: Lewisville, TX
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what does it matter? she's married now.
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Old 10-20-2011, 01:04 PM
 
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She should just ignore the guy and his messages. She has a 6 year marriage and there's no need to drudge up complicated matters.
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Old 10-20-2011, 01:15 PM
 
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My friend Ella had a relationship with a guy over 10 years ago. She told me that he contacted her via Facebook over the weekend. She asked me if I thought it was some kind of booty call. I don't know what to tell her.

Ella and this guy had an intense sexual relationship while he was married and she was single. Now apparently he is divorced (he contacted her on the day his divorce was finalized) and she is the one who has been married for 6 years. Why would he contact her? I'm sure the guy was not hurting for sex, since he was nice looking back in the day.

Does this guy have feelings for her or just wanting her to be his booty call again? What do I tell her, that he cares for her? Or is simple trying to get back in bed with her?
Ella,
If I were you I'd ignore the "friend" request and stick with your hubby.
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Old 10-20-2011, 01:17 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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What do you think you need to tell your friend? Perhaps a *reminder* that she is still maried!
Bad timing... She might've wanted this outcome in the past, but it's too late now. Or maybe it isn't... who knows... If I were her, though, I wouldn't divorce now for somebody who didn't divorce for me in the past, no matter who he is!
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Old 10-20-2011, 01:26 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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What do you think you need to tell your friend? Perhaps a *reminder* that she is still maried!
Agreed. The relationship sounded more physical according to the description, Regardless she is married and should leave the past in the past. Why create strain in her marriage over something 10 years ago.
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Old 10-20-2011, 03:01 PM
 
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Here's in the male point of view.. 10 years or yesterday. If the sex was good it's not forgotten. He wants to knock boots. Now if she is considering a conversation with him she wants some too no matter what she says. Remember it's not what people say but what they do. The longer he stays her FB friend the closer it gets to her marriage being over. Guys do not want their spouses talking to some other guy they have a history with..
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Old 10-20-2011, 03:30 PM
 
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Why does she care what his intentions are? Maybe she is not happy in her marriage? The perfect recipe for another facebook divorce/breakup.
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