Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
...I just rub one out from time to time. I don't have girlfriends. I don't have relationships. F it.
I don't put any effort into meeting women b/c it's just difficult for me. From approaching them to entertaining them to maintaining the relationship to meeting their friends/family to having to impress them to having to be some macho guy all the time. Having enough money to having the right friends to dressing right to surprising them to...well you get what I m saying. It' soooooo much work.
It's just so much work and most of the time it just doesnt work out.
I'm pushing 30 and I don't think I will ever get married or have a serious relationship. Anybody else like this? Is it wrong to not be interested in pursuing women all the time and looking for a girlfriend or trying to get laid all the time? I just don't really care anymore. I guess I will beat it solo til the day I die.
OP, if you're having major problems getting women, that means your standards are probably too high. Try approaching women who you consider beneath you and you'll probably have good results.
Well if you want to look on the bright side, at least you don't have to worry about catching an STD or unwanted pregnancy.
Quote:
Originally Posted by bicoastal10
OP, if you're having major problems getting women, that means your standards are probably too high. Try approaching women who you consider beneath you and you'll probably have good results.
That doesn't do it for me. I've done that a few times just to end a dry spell, but afterwards I tell myself that I would rather beat it to porn than be with someone I'm not attracted to.
...I just rub one out from time to time. I don't have girlfriends. I don't have relationships. F it.
I don't put any effort into meeting women b/c it's just difficult for me. From approaching them to entertaining them to maintaining the relationship to meeting their friends/family to having to impress them to having to be some macho guy all the time. Having enough money to having the right friends to dressing right to surprising them to...well you get what I m saying. It' soooooo much work.
It's just so much work and most of the time it just doesnt work out.
I'm pushing 30 and I don't think I will ever get married or have a serious relationship. Anybody else like this? Is it wrong to not be interested in pursuing women all the time and looking for a girlfriend or trying to get laid all the time? I just don't really care anymore. I guess I will beat it solo til the day I die.
In your late 20's you're in absolutely no position to make a firm decision about your dating/relationship life for the next 50 years.
You mention a few things in your post that I'm going to pick apart.
Quote:
I don't put any effort into meeting women b/c it's just difficult for me. From approaching them to entertaining them to maintaining the relationship to meeting their friends/family to having to impress them to having to be some macho guy all the time.
You don't put any effort into it because it's difficult for you. Approaching women is difficult, and entertaining them is difficult, maintaining a relationship is difficult. Trying to "impress them and having to play some macho guy" is pretending to be someone you're not.
Stop trying to be someone you're not. You're an immature man-child. Emotionally undeveloped. I won't call you lazy because you tried but can't make that connection. It's because you're not ready for a woman because you're insecure. If you were more secure in your own skin with who you are, you wouldn't be complaining about what you mentioned.
My advice - don't be lazy about this, it will take an effort but it only involves you. You will have to step outside of your comfort zone.
For the next 5 years focus on yourself. Develop an emotional backbone. Invest in yourself. Take up a challenging hobby where you build security in yourself. Get involved with other people in a social way - join a social club something where you will have to interact with people to boost your confidence and become secure with yourself so you don't have to pretend you're "that guy" - someone you're not.
You're not interested because the success isn't there.
If you were more successful you wouldn't have a problem dating, would you be here posting about it if you were?
...I just rub one out from time to time. I don't have girlfriends. I don't have relationships. F it.
I don't put any effort into meeting women b/c it's just difficult for me. From approaching them to entertaining them to maintaining the relationship to meeting their friends/family to having to impress them to having to be some macho guy all the time. Having enough money to having the right friends to dressing right to surprising them to...well you get what I m saying. It' soooooo much work.
It's just so much work and most of the time it just doesnt work out.
I'm pushing 30 and I don't think I will ever get married or have a serious relationship. Anybody else like this? Is it wrong to not be interested in pursuing women all the time and looking for a girlfriend or trying to get laid all the time? I just don't really care anymore. I guess I will beat it solo til the day I die.
Its highly ABnormal in our highly sexualized out of control Culture not to use someone for a copulation...but there are great benefits to not doing so, such as no STD contraction which has killed many . Plus going celibate allows you the distinct opportunity to knowing someone of the opposite sex without feeling coersed into intercourse just because society says you should -- oftentimes, sex destroys relationships outside of marriage in fact...its usual. It puts a whole new dynamic into the situation when you know someone that intimately . Further, youll save alot of money if you dont have a steady g/f , youll have much more time for personal things, and there is a liberating freedom associated with going Solo . This does not mean that you shouldnt have healthy female friendships because we are made for such . For the longest time now, ive just kept good friendships with a few gals and no further -- it is incredible the trust and joy that comes from that. Our sexuality is only one part of our makeup and its overrated, misued, and a person doesnt need to use it as it wont fall off.
I say, embrace celibacy and enjoy it instead of focusing on what you done have. Not everything we do in life is prosperous to us , in fact, its destructive when we cross moral boundaries ----------something the media fails to tell people about sexual immorality/casual sex/sexual hedonism.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
9,516 posts, read 20,040,505 times
Reputation: 9418
Quote:
Originally Posted by Rift
...I just rub one out from time to time. I don't have girlfriends. I don't have relationships. F it.
I don't put any effort into meeting women b/c it's just difficult for me. From approaching them to entertaining them to maintaining the relationship to meeting their friends/family to having to impress them to having to be some macho guy all the time. Having enough money to having the right friends to dressing right to surprising them to...well you get what I m saying. It' soooooo much work.
It's just so much work and most of the time it just doesnt work out.
I'm pushing 30 and I don't think I will ever get married or have a serious relationship. Anybody else like this? Is it wrong to not be interested in pursuing women all the time and looking for a girlfriend or trying to get laid all the time? I just don't really care anymore. I guess I will beat it solo til the day I die.
Did someone actually say "embrace celibacy"? You might as well hand him a loaded shotgun and tell him, don't kill yourself, but just in case... Don't encourage him to be a loser, nothing in life is easy, getting and maintaining a relationship can be a lot of work, but in the end it is so worth it.
Location: Los Angeles>Little Rock>Houston>Little Rock
6,489 posts, read 8,845,114 times
Reputation: 17520
Thanks for sharing.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
