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It's also because women don't really know what your response is going to be if she tells you that she's not interested.
Let's be honest about men and their dispositions - women don't know if you're a Forrest Gump or a Rambo type at first glance. She doesn't want to be confronted with a rude mean guy if she says "no thanks" - guys are bigger than women and that can be intimidating. It's easier to just give a number to pacify him. I've had guys ask "did you give me a fake number"... which brings me back to - that's a confrontational type of question - and he's the kind of guy you'd give a fake number to.
I had a guy ask me for my number when I was engaged, I didn't have an engagement ring and when he asked me if I was single, I told him I was engaged and he said kinda pissed off - "how am I supposed to know that if you're not wearing a ring?". I said, "I don't have an engagement ring". And he basically wanted to argue with me that men wouldn't ask me out if I was wearing a ring to let them know I was taken and that it was my fault that he felt like a fool for asking for my number when I'm taken because if he saw a ring he wouldn't have asked me out.
So it's because of guys who behave like that - that women aren't blunt and honest about phone numbers, etc.
No, that guy with the ring complaint was right.
Also, it's really pathetic that you think that one guy going ballistic= most men might go ballistic. Get your facts straight: most violent crime is done by 2% of men; to suggest that all men, therefore, are violent would be absurd. I suggest that if you actually pay attention to a man's body language (for example the lonesome loser with stooped shoulders who can hardly make eye contact and had to have two beers to actuallly get up his nerve to talk) you can tell he's not going to get belligerent - most likely he's going to ponder suicide for failing yet another time.
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In my single days, my girlfriends would actually do this. They would meet guys at bars and give them a fake phone number, and when they called that number, it would be an answering machine that says, "thank you for calling the rejection hotline! If a woman gave you this number, you have been REJECTED!!! Thank you and have a nice day." or something along those lines. I never did this but thought it was hysterical..
so bottom line it is a waste of time to ask for a number at a bar..I thiink i had about a 10% success rate.
My suggestion is that if you dont want to hurt any guys feelings or dont want confrontation than just say you have to get back to your friends or have to go the bathroom.
Let's be honest about men and their dispositions - women don't know if you're a Forrest Gump or a Rambo type at first glance. She doesn't want to be confronted with a rude mean guy if she says "no thanks" - guys are bigger than women and that can be intimidating. It's easier to just give a number to pacify him. I've had guys ask "did you give me a fake number"... which brings me back to - that's a confrontational type of question - and he's the kind of guy you'd give a fake number to.
Do you know how many men act like that? Very few. Put on the big girl pants and tell the truth. Me and most other guys aren't going to go apesh*t if we get a "no".
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I had a guy ask me for my number when I was engaged, I didn't have an engagement ring and when he asked me if I was single, I told him I was engaged and he said kinda pissed off - "how am I supposed to know that if you're not wearing a ring?". I said, "I don't have an engagement ring". And he basically wanted to argue with me that men wouldn't ask me out if I was wearing a ring to let them know I was taken and that it was my fault that he felt like a fool for asking for my number when I'm taken because if he saw a ring he wouldn't have asked me out.
Neither of you are innocent here, but I can see his side.
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So it's because of guys who behave like that - that women aren't blunt and honest about phone numbers, etc.
No, it because those women are cowards. You want respect? Be honest. That's how you get it.
In my single days, my girlfriends would actually do this. They would meet guys at bars and give them a fake phone number, and when they called that number, it would be an answering machine that says, "thank you for calling the rejection hotline! If a woman gave you this number, you have been REJECTED!!! Thank you and have a nice day." or something along those lines. I never did this but thought it was hysterical..
eventhough i hate, despise and loathe both, i would rather get rejected than get teased, lead on, i hate it when people make me think i have a chance with them only to deny my further advances, if you are not interested in me, just REJECT ME INSTANTLY RIGHT ON THE SPOT!!!!
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