I know you are hurting but you have to try to put your feelings aside long enough to just look at the facts okay?
She told you from the beginning she just wanted to have fun.
You were her summer fun.
And that's not such a bad thing! At least you ended on a positive note and she still considers you a friend.
Your problem is all the stuff you are now telling yourself to build this "romance" up into the "love of your life" type when it just wasn't.
What this was was your first relationship.
And while that can be pretty special and something you might never forget, it ran its course.
You are very young and very inexperienced so please pay attention to all I am telling you because you need to get this stuff.
You did not do anything wrong!
And you have to stop ruminating on all this and kicking yourself for your imagined failings.
Take what you learned from this experience and build on it
There will be other girls, IF you allow yourself to go after them.
DO NOT make the mistake of deciding she was your "one and only" and then using that
excuse to keep you from having to go out and meet new girls.
You are making a choice to be depressed about this with the story you are writing in your head.
Take control of your emotions, feel them, but no not let them rule you!
It is hard to forget someone special, but the best way to do it is to get real busy.
No more sitting around and mooning over her.
Every time she pops into your head you have to consciously make yourself think of something else.
You will have more luck doing that if you have other things going on to occupy your time.
This is the kind of stuff that separates the men from the boys. Time to grow up and join the rest of the adults around you
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She used to tell me good morning and text me first. I would do the same. She used to tell me how much she missed me. Then i began to notice every week our communication would begin to lessen every day. Then after 3 weeks at school a friend from the summer informed me she has slept/hooked up with a few guys since i have left. People from work that i thought i was friends with too. then i find she started to hang out with this guy who really into drugs. I ask her friends what i did and why she chose these guys over me. They always told me she i very confused and she doesn't no what she wants. But i know she feels bad about what she did since she like me but her friends say she kind of like this drug guy but she expects nothing to come of it.She also told them i was too good for her. That i deserved better. She had a rough passed but when she was with me she was an angel. She gave me such a special feeling and made me so happy. She does not know i know she has done this stuff bc i did not want to ruin anything. We talk about once or twice a week now. It really kills me bc we used to talk every freaken day now i sense her pushing me away. I just dont know what to do. I thought she was the one. But when i left everything changed. should i remain her friend ( which i found is very hard to do since i have feeling still) or should i just stop talking to her. I need to do something because i have never been so depressed in my life. I guess this is my first broken heart. I just dont know what i did wrong i know she liked me but then i left. I thought we could just continue talking everyday. There is a lot more to the story but this is already pretty long. Please help???? why would she choose this life over me? I can not get her out of my mind i think about her and the good times we used to have every minute of the day. Its killing me!!!!!!!!
