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I wish I could make you understand how much I know what your going though. It's funny I love my GF & we're in this LTR that seem's to be going down in flame's. I hope I'm wrong about that part. Anyway's I have this beautiful redhead out west who is nuts about me. One phone call & she would be here within the week. In the same breath I wouldn't be fair to her or myself. I would end up breaking her heart because I'm still head over hills in love with my GF. Truth is I'm not sure I'll get over her I haven't in 20 year's. So do I risk breaking this other women's heart because I don't want to be alone? We get along great she's funny, intellegent, sexy, etc. The anwser is no. No matter how temped I would be.
I've always heard that you can't commit to a new relationship until you have finished all the business in the old one. Make a decision one way or the other and then know you have to live with it. Tough choice I know.
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I've always heard that you can't commit to a new relationship until you have finished all the business in the old one. Make a decision one way or the other and then know you have to live with it. Tough choice I know.
One thing I do think is true, people who have an SO when they are older, are happier than the ones who are alone. If you want an SO, there are plenty out there, but you won't meet one at home on the sofa. You might meet someone on line, many do. I think it is better to find some worthwhile activity, and make friends.
I know I could if I wanted to, or put an ounce of energy into it. I choose not to. I like being alone. I was married before, and was emotionally battered, I just can't even think about it.
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Originally Posted by Mightyqueen801
Same here. Being married was so awful that I don't want THAT again--but that's the rub. I regret that I will probably go to my grave not knowing what it would be like to have a partner who speaks and behaves kindly, has rational, intelligent conversations, and can be responsible for himself.
I wonder, though, if I've grown so accustomed to being alone that I would have difficulty making room for another person in my life in that way if one did ever show up.
When I met my partner, I was in the category of "never again". 28 years being emotionally (and eventually physically) battered had taken its toll on me. I promised myself never to subject myself to anyone ever being close enough to me to hurt me that way. Never, ever. But the funny thing is, I made a friend and within the year, we were living together. He is my friend. My best friend. And he's an incredible lover and partner. He says it's mutual - and I have no doubt it is as he treats me like his best buddy and like a queen at the same time.
True love isn't something you fall into. It grows out of friendship. So stop looking for the love of your life. Make friends and see what grows. You've nothing to lose and you will, at least, have made new friends.
When I met my partner, I was in the category of "never again". 28 years being emotionally (and eventually physically) battered had taken its toll on me. I promised myself never to subject myself to anyone ever being close enough to me to hurt me that way. Never, ever. But the funny thing is, I made a friend and within the year, we were living together. He is my friend. My best friend. And he's an incredible lover and partner. He says it's mutual - and I have no doubt it is as he treats me like his best buddy and like a queen at the same time.
True love isn't something you fall into. It grows out of friendship. So stop looking for the love of your life. Make friends and see what grows. You've nothing to lose and you will, at least, have made new friends.
I am glad it worked out for you.
I know you probably didn't read through the thread (all 25 pages), but both of us whom you quoted have said specifically that we are NOT looking for anyone anymore, so there's nothing to "stop" doing. I'd merely stated my regrets that I will likely not know what it was like to have been loved. I believe I will always carry a little bit of sadness about that.
For the most part, I am content pursuing interests and activities that were necessarily put aside while I raised my daughter, and I am enjoying them and the people that I meet that way.
I've always heard that you can't commit to a new relationship until you have finished all the business in the old one. Make a decision one way or the other and then know you have to live with it. Tough choice I know.
I know soon here it will come to a head either way with my GF. I wish it wouldn't but I guess that's the way it is. It is a tough call & I have a feeling I'm going to regreat it once again. Your right you can't move on untill you settle your feelings with whoever your with or was.
I know you probably didn't read through the thread (all 25 pages), but both of us whom you quoted have said specifically that we are NOT looking for anyone anymore, so there's nothing to "stop" doing. I'd merely stated my regrets that I will likely not know what it was like to have been loved. I believe I will always carry a little bit of sadness about that.
For the most part, I am content pursuing interests and activities that were necessarily put aside while I raised my daughter, and I am enjoying them and the people that I meet that way.
Actually, MQ, I did read all 25 pages and I was quoting you two to show how much you are enjoying life, rather than looking. My "stop looking" was directed at the OP. You two are already happy with your lives, she is not. When she is happy with herself, whether she meets someone will be irrelevant.
Actually, MQ, I did read all 25 pages and I was quoting you two to show how much you are enjoying life, rather than looking. My "stop looking" was directed at the OP. You two are already happy with your lives, she is not. When she is happy with herself, whether she meets someone will be irrelevant.
I strongly dissagree with you Loveboating.Of course you brought something other than your personality.You bring a an underated archetype that alot of women go nuts for, boyfreind that can dance well.Its an ego fantasy women love.Her and her boyfreind out on the dance floor everyone looking at how pretty she looks and at how well she dances.Girlfreinds are envious of her and she gets to brag that her man is a wonderfull dancer.My dad became a very good ballroom dancer and has only work sporadiclly and part time for the past 15 years.Why, he dates slightly older rich women who love to ballroom dance,and they foot the bill for most everything and lives with them.But they don't care because they can still brag about him because hes such a good dancer.
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