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Old bf from high school pops into my life and occasionally we hook up and then he disappears, leaving me really confused. However, he popped in again saying THIS time would be different (he had never said that before) but the next day, he tells me he still really wants me in his life, but just as friends. I don't get it. If he just wants me just as a friend, why does he keep hooking up with me?
Should I give him another chance? I'm a little scared to, I don't want to get hurt again.
Last edited by SunshineFlower; 12-05-2011 at 12:45 AM..
He keeps hooling up with you because you let him, and apparently his intention is to keep doing that until he finds someone he'd rather be with in the long run.
Hate to say it, but he wants you around as a friend because he thinks that you'll keep on being his booty call.
He keeps hooling up with you because you let him, and apparently his intention is to keep doing that until he finds someone he'd rather be with in the long run.
Hate to say it, but he wants you around as a friend because he thinks that you'll keep on being his booty call.
The thing is, he was really clear that he DOESN'T want sex at all from me, but that he wants to keep hanging out as "just friends". Do you think he's just saying that and if I hang out with him again, he'll try to put the moves on me?
The thing is, he was really clear that he DOESN'T want sex at all from me, but that he wants to keep hanging out as "just friends". Do you think he's just saying that and if I hang out with him again, he'll try to put the moves on me?
If he honestly wanted to be just friends, he would have been a gentleman and stopped himself before he got carried away instead of trying to get you to mess around and then calling the next day. Hence the "I feel connected to you blahblahblah blahblah but I'm not ready for anything like that yet blahblahblah."
If he honestly wanted to be just friends, he would have been a gentleman and stopped himself before he got carried away instead of trying to get you to mess around and then calling the next day. Hence the "I feel connected to you blahblahblah blahblah but I'm not ready for anything like that yet blahblahblah."
lol the funny thing is, I would be SO DOWN to have him only as a booty call. I'm not ready for a full-on relationship. I thought the booty call relationship was where we were headed, but he totally threw me for a loop when he told me he wanted to be just friends.
I guess what I really want from this guy is for him just to be consistent, to not say one thing and then change his mind the next day.
I would love to have the "can't we just have a F-Buddy relationship?" chat with him, but since he made it clear that he doesn't want anything sexual, I'm afraid he'll think I'm trying to pressure him into something.
I wouldn't get back together with an ex, unless maybe we just broke up because one of was moving. There's usually a reason the girl is an ex so I feel like it's best to move on.
Actions speak louder than words. If he actually wants to be friends he'll have to treat you like one, but it just sounds like he's playing hard to get.
I wouldn't get back together with an ex, unless maybe we just broke up because one of was moving. There's usually a reason the girl is an ex so I feel like it's best to move on.
Actions speak louder than words. If he actually wants to be friends he'll have to treat you like one, but it just sounds like he's playing hard to get.
so, honest question here, what IS the benefit of "playing hard to get" because I totally don't get it.
so, honest question here, what IS the benefit of "playing hard to get" because I totally don't get it.
Makes you think there's something else going on in his life that won't allow him enough time/emotional availability/whatever. A lot of people find it more attractive than those who constantly contact them and tell them how badly they want to be with them.
Old bf from high school pops into my life and occasionally we hook up and then he disappears, leaving me really confused. However, he popped in again saying THIS time would be different (he had never said that before) but the next day, he tells me he still really wants me in his life, but just as friends. I don't get it. If he just wants me just as a friend, why does he keep hooking up with me?
Should I give him another chance? I'm a little scared to, I don't want to get hurt again.
Oh come on!!! Are you serious???
You have to realize he is using you for sex and only sex.
Sometimes I wonder how some women have this fly right over their heads.
lol the funny thing is, I would be SO DOWN to have him only as a booty call. I'm not ready for a full-on relationship. I thought the booty call relationship was where we were headed, but he totally threw me for a loop when he told me he wanted to be just friends.
I guess what I really want from this guy is for him just to be consistent, to not say one thing and then change his mind the next day.
I would love to have the "can't we just have a F-Buddy relationship?" chat with him, but since he made it clear that he doesn't want anything sexual, I'm afraid he'll think I'm trying to pressure him into something.
Wait! WHAT?!
What in the... ??? I don't get it!!
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