"Take a Number"

[Sam I Am]

Bluegrass girl is right - but once you've expressed yourself (and keep it short and sweet, they quit listening after a while!), expect change. If it only changes a little while and then starts slipping backwards - well, he's not ready for a real relationship yet. Guys and girls alike - we can't read each other's minds, but once it's on the table we gotta deal with it. And dealing with it includes deciding what is the most important and who takes precedence in your daily life. If you don't take precedence in his, then you're off on the wrong foot anyway. That doesn't mean he's at your beck and call, and it doesn't mean he doesn't go hang with his friends - but it DOES mean if ya'll have something planned and he ditches you for his buddies, then there's a problem.

If you're in the first throes of love or lust, I'd say there may be a problem if he's already coming up with "my friends kidnapped me". At the first of a relationship everyone is on their best behavior....if this is his best, you might want to just keep moving down the road. I assure you it won't get any better. But to give him the benefit of the doubt, I'd lay it all out for him very clearly and then watch, and try to maintain a neutral stance on what you're seeing. If he starts feeling like enough time has passed and he's placated you that he feels "safe" and starts getting kidnapped again, say adios....but wish him well and be glad he's going to eventually grow up on someone's time other than yours.