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cpg35223 · 12-23-2011, 09:52 AM

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Originally Posted by sierraAZ

When you don't use emoticons, not everybody knows it's a joke, which I hope it is...

If somebody doesn't know it's a joke, then they should probably not date at all, resorting to an arranged marriage instead.

HurricaneDC · 12-23-2011, 10:01 AM

i'll save the coupons for when we're seeing each other and she knows I'm just being fiscally responsible and not a cheapskate

cpg35223 · 12-23-2011, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by HurricaneDC

i'll save the coupons for when we're seeing each other and she knows I'm just being fiscally responsible and not a cheapskate

I think I'd wait until you've been married ten or so years.

HurricaneDC · 12-23-2011, 10:04 AM

:s

even if it's a 50% off coupon for a restaurant that normally costs $200 a head?

sierraAZ · 12-23-2011, 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by cpg35223

If somebody doesn't know it's a joke, then they should probably not date at all, resorting to an arranged marriage instead.

Well, to many it's a perfectly reasonable suggestion

, as you should know from experience, too.

Megan1967 · 12-23-2011, 01:03 PM

I've read that people think coffee and lunch dates are bad first dates in a couple of threads. I don't think so. I mean, it should progress to more serious things if you are both interested, but these seem like good ways to get to know someone gradually.

The only problem with coffee is that, when you don't know someone at all - say someone you met via an online dating site, it can be hard to keep up small talk. It sort of depends on the people involved. Two shy people with nothing else to focus on except each other can have a fairly painful experience. I had this experience, but I had also exchanged a few emails with the guy and his profile revealed so much about his personality that I still wanted to get to know him better.

And as far as these kinds of dates being considered more "friendship" oriented as opposed to "romantically" oriented, shouldn't people try to start out as friends before they become seriously involved? I don't mean that you can't get more serious fairly quickly, but gee, wouldn't it be a good idea to at least know a little about them before you plunge into a relationship?

Chopper_Guy · 12-23-2011, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by HurricaneDC

Okay so I'm asking out this girl on a date when she gets back in town. I'm debating on whether to ask her out to lunch or dinner. Lunch might be easier since I know she's gonna be interning in DC and I'm in DC for most of winter break, whereas dinner would be tougher since she'd be back on campus. And I don't have a car which makes the logistics trickier

My friend and I were talking about this and he thinks I ought to go with the dinner date because it definitely conveys the "I'm interested in you romantically" message while a lunch date can be misconstrued to mean "you seem like a potentially good friend, let's get some food." If that makes any sense to y'all.

Thoughts?

Lunch? Dinner? Who cares? Not much difference, really.

But here's the deal: the best-case scenario is when a dinner date extends into a breakfast in bed date.

vegaspilgrim · 12-23-2011, 05:10 PM

Funny, I went on a lunch date this afternoon. Was the 3rd time I've seen this girl, who I met online. Only reason we did a day thing is because she lives an hour away and was already here in Denver staying with her friends last night, and needed to drive back before it got dark. We were both off from work today. Right at the end as I took her back to her car, I got the same old "you're a great guy, but we should just be friends" crap that I've heard time after time again.

First lunch date = last date.

cpg35223 · 12-23-2011, 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by vegaspilgrim

Funny, I went on a lunch date this afternoon. Was the 3rd time I've seen this girl, who I met online. Only reason we did a day thing is because she lives an hour away and was already here in Denver staying with her friends last night, and needed to drive back before it got dark. We were both off from work today. Right at the end as I took her back to her car, I got the same old "you're a great guy, but we should just be friends" crap that I've heard time after time again.

First lunch date = last date.

Man, third time is when you should be laying it on thick. That's NOT when you should be having a lunch date. The problem isn't the question of a lunch date. It is one of timing.

vegaspilgrim · 12-23-2011, 05:52 PM

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Man, third time is when you should be laying it on thick. That's NOT when you should be having a lunch date. The problem isn't the question of a lunch date. It is one of timing.

Well I'm not that great at reading other people's minds. Maybe she wasn't that into me from the beginning? It's one of the pitfalls of online dating as compared to meeting someone in the real world and asking them out. She's the one that suggested this lunch thing, not me. I wanted to get together last night, but she was with her girlfriends (or at least that's what the story was). Last two times I drove up to Fort Collins, so I figured this would be a good opportunity to see her since she was here in town. OR-- you think there still would have been a chance had this not happened? In the future, I should demand night-only 3rd dates or forget it?