Dating with a brain injury (guys, love, social, experiences)
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Hi there
Im a 26 yr old male who had a car accident 2 years ago
I have recovered a fair amount the last 2 years and am wanting to start dating again.
Im still unable to work because of some head pains, cognitive difficulties and dizzy spells but I still hope in the years to come I can return to a full time job.
Im having trouble with guilt. I feel bad about getting into a relationship with someone nice and bringing them into my life.
I know I cant provide what most other guys can. eg I cant provide financial support, I still rest alot and cant do as much socially, Im more quiet than i used to be because of the cognitive stuff, short term memory sucks aswell. I deal with panic on top of.
I have gained things though. Ive learnt alot more about life,people and whats important.
Is it ok to bring someone into my life when im somewhat restricted. I find myself feeling guilty about doing so
That's tough dude. I'm sorry about your situation. I think if you're honest about your situation then I don't think you have anything to feel guilty about. I'm not saying it needs to be the first thing to come out of your mouth. But if she likes you and you ease into telling her over the first few dates then I don't see why you should feel guilty. And if she's worth it then she'll understand and stick around.
I don't think there's anything wrong with bringing someone into your life. Certainly you have some limitations, but who doesn't?! Just be honest about how your brain injury has affected you and let the person you're dating decide if this is something she can be comfortable with. Give her a little info at a time; you don't want to overwhelm her with your challenges before she has a chance to know all your good qualities. And remember that not every relationship has to end in a lifelong commitment. Sometimes just a bit of companionship can really improve your quality of life.
Hi there
Im a 26 yr old male who had a car accident 2 years ago
I have recovered a fair amount the last 2 years and am wanting to start dating again.
Im still unable to work because of some head pains, cognitive difficulties and dizzy spells but I still hope in the years to come I can return to a full time job.
Im having trouble with guilt. I feel bad about getting into a relationship with someone nice and bringing them into my life.
I know I cant provide what most other guys can. eg I cant provide financial support, I still rest alot and cant do as much socially, Im more quiet than i used to be because of the cognitive stuff, short term memory sucks aswell. I deal with panic on top of.
I have gained things though. Ive learnt alot more about life,people and whats important.
Is it ok to bring someone into my life when im somewhat restricted. I find myself feeling guilty about doing so
Dear hayd85,
The purpose of being on this wonderful planet is to be happy and to partake in joyful experiences with others. Don't feel guilty. Focus on yourself. Everything else will fall into place.
Thanks for the replys guys. I think your right in that ill ease into telling her and leave it up to her to decide whether she wants to be apart of it or not. Nothing to lose I suppose
Thanks for the replys guys. I think your right in that ill ease into telling her and leave it up to her to decide whether she wants to be apart of it or not. Nothing to lose I suppose
Is there an update? I'd love to hear it. My TBI was in 2002 - the dark ages of TBI treatment. I never received adequate care. I am still recovering. Your concerns in 2011 over dating - I relate. I understand. I get it.
Hope things have greatly improved.
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Originally Posted by hayd85
Hi there
Im a 26 yr old male who had a car accident 2 years ago
I have recovered a fair amount the last 2 years and am wanting to start dating again.
Im still unable to work because of some head pains, cognitive difficulties and dizzy spells but I still hope in the years to come I can return to a full time job.
Im having trouble with guilt. I feel bad about getting into a relationship with someone nice and bringing them into my life.
I know I cant provide what most other guys can. eg I cant provide financial support, I still rest alot and cant do as much socially, Im more quiet than i used to be because of the cognitive stuff, short term memory sucks aswell. I deal with panic on top of.
I have gained things though. Ive learnt alot more about life,people and whats important.
Is it ok to bring someone into my life when im somewhat restricted. I find myself feeling guilty about doing so
Hi there
Im a 26 yr old male who had a car accident 2 years ago
I have recovered a fair amount the last 2 years and am wanting to start dating again.
Im still unable to work because of some head pains, cognitive difficulties and dizzy spells but I still hope in the years to come I can return to a full time job.
Im having trouble with guilt. I feel bad about getting into a relationship with someone nice and bringing them into my life.
I know I cant provide what most other guys can. eg I cant provide financial support, I still rest alot and cant do as much socially, Im more quiet than i used to be because of the cognitive stuff, short term memory sucks aswell. I deal with panic on top of.
I have gained things though. Ive learnt alot more about life,people and whats important.
Is it ok to bring someone into my life when im somewhat restricted. I find myself feeling guilty about doing so
I'm really sorry for your situation. I think that everyone in life deserves a shot at happiness and a relationship and you are no different. Definitely let her know a little bit at a time but let her see your good side first.
Is there an update? I'd love to hear it. My TBI was in 2002 - the dark ages of TBI treatment. I never received adequate care. I am still recovering. Your concerns in 2011 over dating - I relate. I understand. I get it.
Mine was even earlier, but I did receive adequate care.
I am also still recovering.
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Hope he is well.
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