Will my abusive Ex be different with his new girlfriend?
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People who are abusive often try to convince themselves (and you) that things would be different with another partner. They usually have to go through lots of partners -- all of whom they abuse, sometimes in different ways -- before they have the courage to face reality. If they ever do. Sometimes they kill one of them and end up in jail.
Part of recovery for someone who is abusive is being celibate for a year or more, and then choosing a new partner who they know will leave them instantly and permanently if they pull any crap. But unless your ex does a ton of counseling first, he is unlikely to choose a partner like that now.
He will want someone who feels sorry for the hurt little boy inside him and tries to love him enough that he can heal, or one who hates herself, or one who nobody will believe, or whatever his M.O. is.
Old thread, but this is a topic I like to discuss. Abusive people are abusive. If they are abusive with one person, they will more likely be abusive with another person. Abuse is a habit which has more to do with the abuser than the abuse victim.
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