In a new relationship should women also be initiating dates? (dating, married)
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I ask. Then again, I figure if I don't pursue what interests me, I'll never get it.
Does that mean that I get turned down, certainly.
But it's not fair to have men initiate everything, I'm looking for an equal, and I'm willing to take risks to find that.
Some men don't like it, but I probably wouldn't be a good fit with them any way.
I ask. Then again, I figure if I don't pursue what interests me, I'll never get it.
Does that mean that I get turned down, certainly.
But it's not fair to have men initiate everything, I'm looking for an equal, and I'm willing to take risks to find that.
Some men don't like it, but I probably wouldn't be a good fit with them any way.
This is a great frame to have, rep.
You don't find that many women with this frame in the states (You're in Bayern, no?)
I'm an old broad now but I never understood or complied with this unwritten rule that apparently decrees that a lady waits for a man to ask her out. But then I come from a rather long line of very independent-thinking women on my father's side. Anyway, throughout a long and active dating life I never hesitated to ask someone out if I found them attractive. As far as already being in a new relationship I don't see any "should" involved either. I suppose convention decrees that the man takes the lead but in my opinion that's a bunch of poppycock.
I totally agree, i think there are so many dating rules and stuff people follow and believe that it leads to a lot of confusion among spouses. If neither is being needy then i dont think there should be any problem with a girl asking a guy if he wants to get together or something, and i'd also be flattered. Its stupid to think the guy has to initiate anything. However things like the first kiss or something, i think the guy also should initiate because it lets the female know he has confidence or isnt afraid of being rejected.
When I am in Asia it's not like we have to wait until we have a relationship. Girls have asked me out anyways regardless of our relationship not being steady/formal. Initative, contributing on expenses, romancing, etc. has nothing to do with relationship status. Cultural differences I guess to what I see in the USA. To each, their own.
If I am in a new relationship with a woman, and I really like her, I'm going to set up a next time during the end of the date or extremely shortly after.
If I don't ask, I don't want to go again. Therefore if a woman initiated, she would therefore be rejected. I thought this was a subtle rule?
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