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It just sounds way too "iffy" and I wouldn't chance it. Perhaps you could ask your LL to let you go month to month if you're SURE he will eventually get her out. It depends on what "fall-back" you could have if you give up your apt only to find out you have no where to move.
It just sounds way too "iffy" and I wouldn't chance it. Perhaps you could ask your LL to let you go month to month if you're SURE he will eventually get her out. It depends on what "fall-back" you could have if you give up your apt only to find out you have no where to move.
Unfortunately, landlord wants to know by the end of this month if I plan to renew my lease. If so, then I have to sign for a whole year. If not, then I have to start looking for a new place because they don't allow month-to-month or lease extensions. Last time I moved, I ended up paying rent in two places for a couple of months because of the lease overlap .
If my fiance didn't make it seem like he's putting his goddaughter out so I can move in, I wouldn't feel so guilty. He could have just said her time is up. Then I would look forward to saving money to put toward something nice.
I would renew. I grew up in NYC and have lived there as an adult, so I'm well aware of the rental market. You know how much of a pain it would be to find another place if things didn't work out with your fiance, and you also know how expensive it is to move, so it's not very likely that someone who is out of work and apparently unmotivated to move is actually going to find a place anytime soon.
I don't understand why you feel guilty. You are planning to marry this man? It's not unreasonable that you two would want to share a household.
Unfortunately, landlord wants to know by the end of this month if I plan to renew my lease. If so, then I have to sign for a whole year. If not, then I have to start looking for a new place because they don't allow month-to-month or lease extensions. Last time I moved, I ended up paying rent in two places for a couple of months because of the lease overlap .
If my fiance didn't make it seem like he's putting his goddaughter out so I can move in, I wouldn't feel so guilty. He could have just said her time is up. Then I would look forward to saving money to put toward something nice.
You're much better off renewing a lease or taking a new lease in a new place on your own, if you really want a change.
If you don't move in, he will get over it.
But, if you move in and Godfather and Goddaughter ride on you like you are a Godcamel, then you will have a real good jolly ride.
Do you wannabe a camel or do you wanna swim free in your own fishbowl? Your choices, senorita
I am starting to wonder if this is some elaborate scheme to cover up their relationship? Do you think this could even remotely be the case?
If not, then it most certainly is a strange situation. Is the god daughter of similar age to your fiancee? What is the age gap? Have you confirmed 100% that this is his goddaughter? Maybe shes a sugar baby and now that he found you he wants her out?
Goddaughter is 18 years his junior. He was good friends with her father, who is now deceased. I have met her boyfriend and her mother and other family members when we visited her family out of state. They all welcomed me as her godfather's fiancee.
I don't know much about the sugar baby dynamic but I think her having a boyfriend pretty much cancels that out. Also, he doesn't have much money so I think that rules out him being her sugar daddy. She is not much younger than me but acts like a teenager in many ways. But at the same time, she has been married and has been around quite a bit so she's not a kid. Trust me, I have tried to figure this thing out but I haven't found any evidence of foul play - just evidence of weirdness.
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I would renew. I grew up in NYC and have lived there as an adult, so I'm well aware of the rental market. You know how much of a pain it would be to find another place if things didn't work out with your fiance, and you also know how expensive it is to move, so it's not very likely that someone who is out of work and apparently unmotivated to move is actually going to find a place anytime soon.
I don't understand why you feel guilty. You are planning to marry this man? It's not unreasonable that you two would want to share a household.
Well, if things don't work out with my fiance (worst case scenario), I would just go back to Queens and find a new apartment alone like I have now). Not the hardest thing in the world. Neighborhoods like forest hills, kew gardens, fresh meadows, jamaica estates are doable - not like living in Manhattan.
In the case of the goddaughter, she would be renting a room month-to-month in the Bronx (probably about $125 a week) - also not the hardest thing in the world. But if he asks her for rent for the next few months until I move in, I doubt she will want to leave.
And yes, we are planning to get married in the fall. Right now I have a junior 2 br that costs $1525 and will go up to $1550. He has a studio that is $825.
Goddaughter is 18 years his junior. He was good friends with her father, who is now deceased. I have met her boyfriend and her mother and other family members when we visited her family out of state. They all welcomed me as her godfather's fiancee.
I don't know much about the sugar baby dynamic but I think her having a boyfriend pretty much cancels that out. Also, he doesn't have much money so I think that rules out him being her sugar daddy. She is not much younger than me but acts like a teenager in many ways. But at the same time, she has been married and has been around quite a bit so she's not a kid. Trust me, I have tried to figure this thing out but I haven't found any evidence of foul play - just evidence of weirdness.
Ok, yea that is strange. But at least I feel more comfortable with knowing that there is no foul play. It sounds to me like the god daughter has some issues that she needs to figure out on her own. By that I mean, without your fiances help. He needs to let her out from under his wing. Anyway, dont feel bad about him kicking her out for you. She is too old to be living with him still.
Also, who cares if your the excuse! Its better that she hate you and blame you then for her to blame your fiance, right? At least thats how I look at it. I would happily jump on the grenade for a S.O if it meant that one of us had to be the bad guy towards family.
Ok, yea that is strange. But at least I feel more comfortable with knowing that there is no foul play. It sounds to me like the god daughter has some issues that she needs to figure out on her own. By that I mean, without your fiances help. He needs to let her out from under his wing. Anyway, dont feel bad about him kicking her out for you. She is too old to be living with him still.
Also, who cares if your the excuse! Its better that she hate you and blame you then for her to blame your fiance, right? At least thats how I look at it. I would happily jump on the grenade for a S.O if it meant that one of us had to be the bad guy towards family.
The thing about them is that she is not his real family. I mean I could see her being really close to a godmother like that. But even so, she's 31. And he doesn't act like this with his blood relatives. He seems to have no problem distancing himself from them. So strange.
I guess I didn't want to be the excuse because there is already so much tension between me and the goddaughter.
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