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I have a friend who has dated a guy for nearly 10 years, she wants to get married and have babies. I know it's useless to say anything to her, because when you wear rose colored glasses and have earplugs in, you don't see or hear anything someone says to you.
She is an excellent worker, very responsible. He on the other hand has had 6 jobs in the past 4 years, currently temporarily unemployed. They have 5 domestic pets that "she" takes care of, as well as doing all of the housework, takes out the garbage, cleans off her vehicle when it snows, does all of the cooking etc., Everyday she obsesses on what she is going to make him for dinner. She is a vegetarian, he isn't. He has recently joined the gym and works out for hours at a time (but can't help out at home). One day she left him a note asking him to please do the dishes, she got home dishes were not done. He shows her little affection. It drives me crazy when she talks about him, how much she loves him... What the heck is she getting from the relationship? Why do women waste their time with these kind of relationships and then to go get married and add a child to the mix.
I have a friend who has dated a guy for nearly 10 years, she wants to get married and have babies. I know it's useless to say anything to her, because when you wear rose colored glasses and have earplugs in, you don't see or hear anything someone says to you.
She is an excellent worker, very responsible. He on the other hand has had 6 jobs in the past 4 years, currently temporarily unemployed. They have 5 domestic pets that "she" takes care of, as well as doing all of the housework, takes out the garbage, cleans off her vehicle when it snows, does all of the cooking etc., Everyday she obsesses on what she is going to make him for dinner. She is a vegetarian, he isn't. He has recently joined the gym and works out for hours at a time (but can't help out at home). One day she left him a note asking him to please do the dishes, she got home dishes were not done. He shows her little affection. It drives me crazy when she talks about him, how much she loves him... What the heck is she getting from the relationship?Why do women waste their time with these kind of relationships and then to go get married and add a child to the mix.
I'm going with 'yes' he's a deadbeat using a 9 out of 10 ratio...anyways, welcome to the world! That is how majority of women act today they are very stupid! Similar to your friend, I used to have a female friend that would fu*k these guys within 2 weeks and then sit around crying, wondering, "Why hasn't Johnny called?" etc. . Usually they end up getting stuck with kids they can't half feed and the title of divorcee, but hopefully this doesn't happen to your friend.
If they are each comfortable with the relationship there is nothing you can do but remain her friend. Clearly, he won't want to compete with a baby for her time so I think the relationship needs to be re-negotiated or she needs to find someone with compatable goals. But, she is already caring for this "baby" why would she want another? Just a thought.
She is an excellent worker, very responsible. He on the other hand has had 6 jobs in the past 4 years, currently temporarily unemployed. They have 5 domestic pets that "she" takes care of, as well as doing all of the housework, takes out the garbage, cleans off her vehicle when it snows, does all of the cooking etc., Everyday she obsesses on what she is going to make him for dinner. She is a vegetarian, he isn't. He has recently joined the gym and works out for hours at a time (but can't help out at home). One day she left him a note asking him to please do the dishes, she got home dishes were not done. He shows her little affection. It drives me crazy when she talks about him, how much she loves him... What the heck is she getting from the relationship? Why do women waste their time with these kind of relationships and then to go get married and add a child to the mix.
It is weird that you know so much about the goings on within this private relationship, right down to a particular incident when the dishes were not done. And how he shows affection.
All I can assume is that she is telling you this, and she is telling you because she is not happy with the situation. She is also telling you that she still loves him. Basically, she is using you as a sounding board and putting you in a difficult situation. I would tell her to leave you out of her marriage because there is only room for two in there.
Oh, and your friend sounds like a tedious bore. Does she bring something more positive to the relationship at all?
It is weird that you know so much about the goings on within this private relationship, right down to a particular incident when the dishes were not done. And how he shows affection.
All I can assume is that she is telling you this, and she is telling you because she is not happy with the situation. She is also telling you that she still loves him. Basically, she is using you as a sounding board and putting you in a difficult situation. I would tell her to leave you out of her marriage because there is only room for two in there.
Oh, and your friend sounds like a tedious bore. Does she bring something more positive to the relationship at all?
I just listen, I know it wouldn't do any good to say anything, and I am not going to get involved. I was just more or less curious to if anyone got the same impression as me based upon what I posted!
Are you a guy???? Because it's pretty normal for some women to share stuff back and forth! I realize some people like to keep everything in, and then there are some that just get it out!
I have a friend who has dated a guy for nearly 10 years, she wants to get married and have babies. I know it's useless to say anything to her, because when you wear rose colored glasses and have earplugs in, you don't see or hear anything someone says to you.
She is an excellent worker, very responsible. He on the other hand has had 6 jobs in the past 4 years, currently temporarily unemployed. They have 5 domestic pets that "she" takes care of, as well as doing all of the housework, takes out the garbage, cleans off her vehicle when it snows, does all of the cooking etc., Everyday she obsesses on what she is going to make him for dinner. She is a vegetarian, he isn't. He has recently joined the gym and works out for hours at a time (but can't help out at home). One day she left him a note asking him to please do the dishes, she got home dishes were not done. He shows her little affection. It drives me crazy when she talks about him, how much she loves him... What the heck is she getting from the relationship? Why do women waste their time with these kind of relationships and then to go get married and add a child to the mix.
She has no self-respect and doesn't believe she deserves any better.
Is it possible you're only hearing the bad stuff, and the makeup parts aren't getting filtered to you?
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. Usually they end up getting stuck with kids they can't half feed and the title of divorcee, but hopefully this doesn't happen to your friend.
