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I developed an incredible crush on a co-worker and for reasons I can not go into, I know there is no chance of me ever being able to act upon it and approach her. I feel for starters she is way above me in her league. It is difficult enough at work to keep at my job and its responsibilities already. I get very few chances to see her during the day. Usually it is at the employee lounge or if we cross paths in the back office. There is too much close-knittedness to our company and it would be the death spiral for me if others got wind of my interest in her and embarked upon the gossip route. My heart aches but I know intellectually I have to let this go. I have gotten as crazy as to look at her facebook page and I feel like I am snooping into her life and that is not how I want to be. I would just want her to know I think she is most beautiful women I have ever seen but there is no way of doing that without coming across as a creep. How does one get over a crush?
It's not considered rejection if you haven't even asked her anything or expressed any emotion to her.
I just want to cut to the chase with this, feeling that rejection could be brutal to me ultimately. In my heart, I feel I am probably reading the signals from her wrongly and I sense rejection is likely. I do not even want to get to the point of making her feel uncomfortable if she is just friendly and had no intentions of showing interest to begin with.
I just want to cut to the chase with this, feeling that rejection could be brutal to me ultimately. In my heart, I feel I am probably reading the signals from her wrongly and I sense rejection is likely. I do not even want to get to the point of making her feel uncomfortable if she is just friendly and had no intentions of showing interest to begin with.
Oh Brother, you really do need help. My best advice, the next time some girl catches your eye, ask her out! Keep doing that until you find one who says yes!
I was really attracted to a few girls at work. One was my age; same school, some same classes and same grade. We used to hang out all the time, as well with another friend, too. The two were inseparable. The guy was a football player, and me, a band geek. Who do you think she went out with and later, got married to?
The other girl; however, was a little older than me. Same school though, but one grade higher. She treated me like crap but we still did some things together. When I knew for a fact that the guy, a good friend of mine, was really into the one girl, I backed off. I didn't think me and the older girl would hit it off over anything other than work-friends, but I went up to her and said, "Has anybody told you how beautiful you are?"
Like I said, nothing else transpired from that. I felt good though, like 200 lbs was lifted from my shoulders.
The point of this is just to say; you, yourself, is stopping you. No one else is saying, "No", just you. When you tell yourself that, not only does your confidence go down, but that is what you'll get because that is what you want. Trust yourself, know and agree to what you want and go for it.
Start talking to this girl. Be yourself, make her laugh, get to know her. Then let her know how you feel. The feeling might be mutual, it might not. Don't worry about what she thinks about you before or after you say it.
Well you can start by not worrying too much about it, if you come on and tell her you've been watching her and have this huge fascination with her before getting to know her well, you're going to get slapped with a restraining order or a girl who wants to stay as far away from you as possible. Don't be the creepy guy at work.
Just get to know her, talk to her and then ask her out when you're comfortable around her. Please don't go to her and tell her your undying feelings
And rejection? How do I deal with it? Like everyone should.. with a laugh, beer and quest for a different girl. It also helps to be talking to a few girls, as opposed to just thinking about one. You tend to not think so much, and don't appear quite as desperate. Try to meet a few girls, and itll take off some pressure.
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Well you actually get REJECTED for starters...
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