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Yes, I believe it's selfish to not want children. Everyone, except for the mentally insane, emotionally unsteady people and criminals should be a parent. Most people who voluntarily refuse to bear children do so because they want all the luxury things (fancy cars, extravagant vacations, clothes, etc.) and just "don't want the responsibilities."
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The lack of desire to have children often stems from selfish motives. Some people do not want children because they want to focus on themselves, their careers, and their money. They do not want to be "tied down" or give up their expensive cars, homes, or vacations. This kind of attitude is sinful. Others do not want children because of fears about not being able to parent successfully, not being able to afford to raise the child properly, or fears about childbirth itself.
Let's leave "sinful" out of this. There is a religion thread for that. I think that in today's screwed-up times, not wanting to have kids is more smart than it is sinful... and my religion says "crank them out."
It's not selfish to not want children. I think that the reasons that people give for not wanting children sometimes sound selfish - but the thing is - you either want children or you don't. So - even if someone says they don't want children because they want to travel or they don't have the time or yada yada yada - the crux of it is that they simply do not want children. Not a big deal. You don't want them - don't have them. Having my son has been the most wonderful, fulfilling, amazing experience of my entire life - BUT we wanted him! I feel bad for people that will never get to experience this because it is love like I never knew existed - but the thing is - if you don't want to be a parent - you wouldn't get the same joy out of parenthood. I'm sure people who skydive feel the same way about all the people who don't skydive.
It's your life. As long as you're not hurting anyone else, do what you want with it. Ignore busybodies who feel the need to tell you how you should be living or what you should want. They get their chance and you get yours.
It's not selfish to not want children. I think that the reasons that people give for not wanting children sometimes sound selfish - but the thing is - you either want children or you don't. So - even if someone says they don't want children because they want to travel or they don't have the time or yada yada yada - the crux of it is that they simply do not want children. Not a big deal. You don't want them - don't have them. Having my son has been the most wonderful, fulfilling, amazing experience of my entire life - BUT we wanted him! I feel bad for people that will never get to experience this because it is love like I never knew existed - but the thing is - if you don't want to be a parent - you wouldn't get the same joy out of parenthood. I'm sure people who skydive feel the same way about all the people who don't skydive.
^^^This.
And we could turn the tables and say people who have kids so so they have someone to look after them in their old age, or have kids to repair a marriage are selfish. Knowing you don't want kids, don't like kids, wouldn't be a good parent, etc., is more selfless to me than bringing a child into the world who has a pre-determined job to do for their parents.
Yes, I believe it's selfish to not want children. Everyone, except for the mentally insane, emotionally unsteady people and criminals should be a parent. Most people who voluntarily refuse to bear children do so because they want all the luxury things (fancy cars, extravagant vacations, clothes, etc.) and just "don't want the responsibilities."
But of course, as expected on here, people are going to take what I say out of context and get fired up over it.
That's only because you give us so much material to work with.
I guess by 90's you mean 1890's.
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