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I guess we have different definitions of 'geeky' then. A stereotype, if you will, of the skinny guy who wears plaid, has pen in his shirt pocket, you know... Revenge of the Nerds type of geek. Funny-ass movie, btw. Oh, I wouldn't consider YOU 'geeky' simply because you're not a sports fan or partier - again, I think it goes back to differing definitions. I happen to like sports myself... WITHIN REASON. It certainly isn't my 'life' by any stretch.
Well, I FEEL like a 'rare breed'. Dunno what else to say about that one... except, yes, I definitely follow the beat of a much different drummer.
The last one... well, will say that's a 'tuffy'. I need some serious convincing to change my stance there - and it can only come via positive experiences.
I think the closer you are to 'normal' and 'average' the easier it is to date. You don't have to be super attractive necessarily, but you should be as close to the status quo as possible.
If you have interests or hobbies that aren't 'normal' or if you have physical traits that aren't close to 'average' it makes things harder.
For me, I'm FAR taller than average, I have surgery scars that mar my skin, I also have tattoos and hobbies and a career that are not normal for a female. Therefore, I believe it's inherently harder for me to find a significant other than most of my friends because while they may not be gorgeous, they work retail jobs, have generic English degrees from average universities and are entirely normal in every way. They're easy to date, someone like me isn't and I think that may be where some problems arise for certain people.
I think the closer you are to 'normal' and 'average' the easier it is to date. You don't have to be super attractive necessarily, but you should be as close to the status quo as possible.
If you have interests or hobbies that aren't 'normal' or if you have physical traits that aren't close to 'average' it makes things harder.
For me, I'm FAR taller than average, I have surgery scars that mar my skin, I also have tattoos and hobbies and a career that are not normal for a female. Therefore, I believe it's inherently harder for me to find a significant other than most of my friends because while they may not be gorgeous, they work retail jobs, have generic English degrees from average universities and are entirely normal in every way. They're easy to date, someone like me isn't and I think that may be where some problems arise for certain people.
Yeah, but imagine, there's some guy out there who will fall for you because you're SO unique! And I agree: "average" is a lot easier to match up.
For me, I'm FAR taller than average, I have surgery scars that mar my skin, I also have tattoos and hobbies and a career that are not normal for a female. Therefore, I believe it's inherently harder for me to find a significant other than most of my friends because while they may not be gorgeous, they work retail jobs, have generic English degrees from average universities and are entirely normal in every way. They're easy to date, someone like me isn't and I think that may be where some problems arise for certain people.
I'll be blunt here...
I don't even think the tattoos, hobbies and career matter. The further away from average you are lookswise, the harder it is period. I'm short (strike 1) and Asian (strike 2). That alone puts me near the bottom of the dating pool. It's funny. When I was younger (late teens, early 20s), some guys used to look at me and assume I couldn't get any women. Unfortunately, they were right.
I mean, I knew when I was younger that people were shallow, but I didn't think it would be THIS BAD.
I don't even think the tattoos, hobbies and career matter. The further away from average you are lookswise, the harder it is period. I'm short (strike 1) and Asian (strike 2). That alone puts me near the bottom of the dating pool. It's funny. When I was younger (late teens, early 20s), some guys used to look at me and assume I couldn't get any women. Unfortunately, they were right.
I mean, I knew when I was younger that people were shallow, but I didn't think it would be THIS BAD.
Oh well. Accept and deal.
How short are you? Some guys consider themselves "short" at 5'6 or 5'7. That's not "short".
Asian isn't de facto a strike. I've brought Asian men to the US as part of an exchange program, and some women literally couldn't keep their hands off them. Some Asian guys are the best-looking guys out there!
I don't even think the tattoos, hobbies and career matter. The further away from average you are lookswise, the harder it is period. I'm short (strike 1) and Asian (strike 2). That alone puts me near the bottom of the dating pool. It's funny. When I was younger (late teens, early 20s), some guys used to look at me and assume I couldn't get any women. Unfortunately, they were right.
I mean, I knew when I was younger that people were shallow, but I didn't think it would be THIS BAD.
Oh well. Accept and deal.
I mentioned this in another thread, but I spent quite a few hours last weekend trying to get the attention of a 5'2 Asian guy. He was awesome and I had a ton of fun, but when I hinted that I wouldn't mind going out with me he quite bluntly told me he wasn't interested in me 'in that way'
But I do agree that being outside of the 'norm' is very difficult. Being a very tall girl (and no, being 5'8 doesn't make a girl tall...) and having a very interesting physique makes it damn near impossible to have men interested in anything more than sexual innuendo or a one night stand.
I mentioned this in another thread, but I spent quite a few hours last weekend trying to get the attention of a 5'2 Asian guy. He was awesome and I had a ton of fun, but when I hinted that I wouldn't mind going out with me he quite bluntly told me he wasn't interested in me 'in that way'
But I do agree that being outside of the 'norm' is very difficult. Being a very tall girl (and no, being 5'8 doesn't make a girl tall...) and having a very interesting physique makes it damn near impossible to have men interested in anything more than sexual innuendo or a one night stand.
See, I can't even get that... I can't get anyone to even WANT to pay any sort of attention to me. Why? Well, I already know why... once again, it goes back to the most fundamental thing about a person... looks.
How short are you? Some guys consider themselves "short" at 5'6 or 5'7. That's not "short".
Asian isn't de facto a strike. I've brought Asian men to the US as part of an exchange program, and some women literally couldn't keep their hands off them. Some Asian guys are the best-looking guys out there!
5'5" on a good day. The Asian thing ain't so bad, but it shortens my pool. To be honest, there's some women who have liked me for me. And I've had some relationships. Sometimes it's easy to whine online.
Sometimes I think I'm decent looking. And I'm kind of surprised a woman hasn't been like, "You're cute. Wanna date?" I mean, I've been around this world quite a bit. But, hey ... you work with what you are given.
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Originally Posted by JetJockey
I mentioned this in another thread, but I spent quite a few hours last weekend trying to get the attention of a 5'2 Asian guy. He was awesome and I had a ton of fun, but when I hinted that I wouldn't mind going out with me he quite bluntly told me he wasn't interested in me 'in that way'
But I do agree that being outside of the 'norm' is very difficult. Being a very tall girl (and no, being 5'8 doesn't make a girl tall...) and having a very interesting physique makes it damn near impossible to have men interested in anything more than sexual innuendo or a one night stand.
Yea, you're a different kind of animal, JJ. To be honest, if a woman who was 5'8" didn't want to date me, I would understand. It's the 5'1"s and 5'2"s that are a little tougher. But whatever. Onwards and upwards...
5'5" on a good day. The Asian thing ain't so bad, but it shortens my pool. To be honest, there's some women who have liked me for me. And I've had some relationships. Sometimes it's easy to whine online.
Sometimes I think I'm decent looking. And I'm kind of surprised a woman hasn't been like, "You're cute. Wanna date?" I mean, I've been around this world quite a bit. But, hey ... you work with what you are given.
Yea, you're a different kind of animal, JJ. To be honest, if a woman who was 5'8" didn't want to date me, I would understand. It's the 5'1"s and 5'2"s that are a little tougher. But whatever. Onwards and upwards...
Even 5'5 isn't that short, sort of borderline "short" in my book. So, what kind of Asian are you, if I may ask?
I agree with almost all of Doll's Eyes,dragonborn,and Mightyqueen's post.
I have the exact same experiences. The only problem with me is that I can't seem to find ugly men who would be interested in me. But then,I didn't pick up the social cues of when a guy is flirting because of my younger years. I didn't date,didn't have friends,even relatives didn't want to go out with me,it was that bad.
I get called attractive now by men,however they just stare. They don't come over and talk to me.
I do know for me weight loss has improved my face a little,and I get called ugly and pretty all in the same day now. But I can be ugly or pretty depending on the ethnicity of the man saying it.
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Funny-ass movie, btw. 
Oh, I wouldn't consider YOU 'geeky' simply because you're not a sports fan or partier - again, I think it goes back to differing definitions. I happen to like sports myself... WITHIN REASON. It certainly isn't my 'life' by any stretch.
