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" Hey I got this gift certificate for a dinner for two at this nice restaurant downtown, I haven't been there yet. We should go and try it out this weekend"
Spin it the right way and it's not a big deal. If that's a problem to the girl, she's not worth your time anyways.
A gift certificate and a coupon are not at all the same thing, just saying...that would be obvious to the woman when it comes time to pay.
An alpha male does whatever he wants; he doesn't need the approval of some woman to determine if his course of action is appropriate or not. If he decides coupon use would be valid, he will use a coupon.
DING DING!!! We have a winner. Though there's really no winning with women. I guess the only spending men should be doing is on females. If men spent lavishly on clothes, cars, and other material things for themselves, women would criticize them for being irresponsible. There's nothing wrong with saving money. The issue isn't that the man can't afford it, it's that he would like to save the money given the opportunity. It's foolish to spend more than you have to. We all try to get the best deals we can when purchasing any product. Does anyone here try to pay sticker price for a car without negotiating?
What woman would be that tacky and crass to give a man demerits for doing this? Of course, if it was customary for women to pay for the dates then their feelings would be different.
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Originally Posted by Fleur66
I thought a little bit more about this.
I can't recall any guys ever using coupons during my dating days.
If I knew up front the guy had a coupon for $10 off your meal, etc., I think I'd feel some pressure to order a cheaper entree and a glass of water vs. a more expensive entree and a glass of wine.
I think I might have different thoughts about couponing if the guy was a college student vs. someone well established in a good career.
As far as the coupon books mentioned above, the ones I've seen usually have some fine print and restrictions. Often they apply to Mon-Thurs. and/or early diners.
Like I said I more likely to coupon than my husband. Once recently our family went out for dinner, and used a coupon. There was a fair bit of "fussing" involved so we could work our total out to the conditions of the coupon...and I think it took away from the enjoyment of the dinner, honestly.
What about those in between? Graduated two weeks ago, trying to get the career going.
DING DING!!! We have a winner. Though there's really no winning with women. I guess the only spending men should be doing is on females. If men spent lavishly on clothes, cars, and other material things for themselves, women would criticize them for being irresponsible. There's nothing wrong with saving money. The issue isn't that the man can't afford it, it's that he would like to save the money given the opportunity. It's foolish to spend more than you have to. We all try to get the best deals we can when purchasing any product. Does anyone here try to pay sticker price for a car without negotiating?
What woman would be that tacky and crass to give a man demerits for doing this? Of course, if it was customary for women to pay for the dates then their feelings would be different.
If you want to save money, why go out to eat at all..it is a big waste of money.
I think there is a big difference in saving hundreds or more dollars purchasing a car, than giving out the message you are worried about saving $10, or sometimes much less at a restaurant.
" Hey I got this gift certificate for a dinner for two at this nice restaurant downtown, I haven't been there yet. We should go and try it out this weekend"
Spin it the right way and it's not a big deal. If that's a problem to the girl, she's not worth your time anyways.
Versus, "We have to go to Arby's because I have a coupon for 3 Beef and Cheddars for the price of 2."
You are not worth full price? Where the do you get this stuff?
Hmm, this is a stupid response to my comment, but I'll play along and treat it with the respect it probably doesn't deserve.
The person paying clearly doesn't want to pay full price if they're using a coupon to avoid paying full price. So either they can't afford to pay full price or they simply don't want to. If they don't want to, the statement is that the invitee isn't worth the full price. Why is this a head slapper to you?
What about those in between? Graduated two weeks ago, trying to get the career going.
I'd cut the in-between some slack.
My DH and I were both poor when we started dating. Mostly we split the bill, or went to cheaper restaurants.
On our first date we went to a nice Italian restaurant. I tried to be reasonable with what I ordered, but I think I would have felt differently if there was a coupon.
Obviously things like Groupon are pretty mainstream now, so I don't see the big deal. The only thing that would be weird if the coupon has restrictions: like, if she orders off the dining room menu but the groupon is only good for the bar menu, do you say something? That's when it gets weird.
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If men spent lavishly on clothes, cars, and other material things for themselves, women would criticize them for being irresponsible. There's nothing wrong with saving money. The issue isn't that the man can't afford it, it's that he would like to save the money given the opportunity. It's foolish to spend more than you have to. We all try to get the best deals we can when purchasing any product. Does anyone here try to pay sticker price for a car without negotiating? 
Graduated two weeks ago, trying to get the career going.
do you get this stuff? 
