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I find the "friends zone" to be interesting for a couple reasons:
First, I have NEVER dated a girl who wasn't a friend at first. Also, the majority of women that I become attracted to I only fall for after being friends for some time. Once I get to know what they're like, their personality traits and their own individual quirks, I become attracted to them. Yes, appearance and presence are good for first impressions, but the things that you eventually learn about them are what seal the deal.
I think there are a lot of false definitions as to what the "friends zone" entails. Are you really friends with this person, or are you just being her "friend" in an attempt to get with her?
If you had been in that same situation and then been rejected when you made your move towards that woman, you'd feel differently.
No such thing as "friends" when it comes to male female relationships. When you are friends with the opposite sex it means that you love them- and are emotionally connected already- The next step would be romance--Of course the best romance would be with someone you love and trust..When I see a woman who states to me regarding another man>>"we are just close friends"....I would be very suspicious ....One party might think they are "just friends" - the other party always has plans and hopes for more.
Here's the thing - I was friends first with almost every guy I've dated or had a relationship with. There were a few that I didn't know that well to start off with - but for the most part, I was friends with most guys before we took it to the next level. However, there have been many friends of mine that I had no interest in dating and so I turned them down.
The fact is - some people you get to know and you realize you want to be more than friends with them - and someone people you get to know and you realize that you only want to be friends with them. There isn't some "zone" that you are either in or out of. Not everyone has chemistry together.
When a woman states to a man- "I think we should stay as friends"---translated...I don't want to tell you the truth about the way I feel about you- You are just not good enough to have a full committed relationship with.
Here's the thing - I was friends first with almost every guy I've dated or had a relationship with. There were a few that I didn't know that well to start off with - but for the most part, I was friends with most guys before we took it to the next level. However, there have been many friends of mine that I had no interest in dating and so I turned them down.
The fact is - some people you get to know and you realize you want to be more than friends with them - and someone people you get to know and you realize that you only want to be friends with them. There isn't some "zone" that you are either in or out of. Not everyone has chemistry together.
And if the guys in the bolded part of your sentence were to continue to "love you" from a distance and buy you gifts and do things for you hoping you'll date them would be a PERFECT example of what is the friend zone.
A lot of people who are saying the friend zone doesn't exist are thinking faaaar too logically Not everyone takes a hint.
Being friends is perfectly normal, and sometimes you grow more attraction and sometimes you don't. Even a first date is just like two friends going out, you don't know much about them and you have to get to know them.
If you read what I said, I say it's the OPPOSITE of going out for a sports team.
Sorry - I see what you are saying, but I still disagree with your second sentence. LOOKS are not 100% responsible for whether or not you get laid or not. Reasons for being rejected will vary - widely!
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I understand that. Where did I say I didnt?
Here. This is what I was responding to.
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Yea. I agree with this. Most of the time guys consider themselves friendzoned, they really don't know the woman well and it's really just straight rejection.
And if the guys in the bolded part of your sentence were to continue to "love you" from a distance and buy you gifts and do things for you hoping you'll date them would be a PERFECT example of what is the friend zone.
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Not everyone takes a hint. 
