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The best advice I received from mine was the examples they lived. It was the way they loved each other and us, the actions that proved it and the support they gave. It never had to come in verbal form.
Grandmom said: "It'll be just as much trouble to fall in love with a rich girl as a poor one...
but with the rich girl you know you'll always have a home and food"
I can't remember a single moment in my entire life that my parents were ever happy with each other or our family. In fact they're both still pretty miserable. They never directly gave me any advice about relationships. What they did do, though, was show me a whole lot of what exactly NOT to do or be when I grew up. This has played a very important role in how I grew up and approached relationships. It has made me strive for only high-quality, honest, happy relationships. I never ever want to end up in their boat and I've realized that if I'm unhappy then it's my own fault.
My parents raised me to be independent and my mother always told me never to NEED a man, but rather WANT one, if I so desired.
My parents did the same. They put a big emphasis on marriage being a team, not a hierarchy. My dad always said, too, (and this isn't just for romantic relationships,) "don't listen to what they say, watch what they do." People pay lip service to a lot of things, but if their actions don't back it up their words are pointless.
My parents' advice on women has mostly been non-existent. They've given me tidbits throughout the years, but apparently, they didn't do much or any dating. Different country, different time. And they're both shy, quiet people.
For most of my dating advice, I have run to my older sister, and she's been of moderate help. But more in the sense of dealing with rejection and having somebody to vent to, rather than helping me get women. None have ever really given me 'relationship' advice.
To wit, my pop's dating 'advice'...
When I was 20 and had it REALLY bad for a girl who friendzoned me:
"Why are you going for a girl your same age? You should be marrying a woman at least 6 years younger."
In my mid 20s when I was JUST friendzoned by another girl:
"Just be friends with her. It's all about being friends."
My mother was married at 18 and a virgin so...lol..not getting much of anything of use from her.
My father - judge people on what they do, not what they say. Also whoever their parents are you are going to see a streak of that in the person. So if you see negative things in a parent, watch out for them in the kid. (temper,mood, money handling, weight issues, health issues, etc) He also told me to just be who I needed to be and say what I had to say. If they can't handle that, they can't handle me, so don't waste time being fake. Being fake gets old and you can't always hold composure in the worst of times. That is the test of a relationship. Handling each other in the worst times. Everyone can handle good times. And lastly - don't bother with broke boys without a future.
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