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It's only courtesy/politeness, and courtesy/politeness is a positive thing...
There was another thread, fairly recently, about whether you should respond to everyone that emails you on a dating site. I seem to recall most said the polite thing to do is send a message back even just to say you're not interested.
So, given that everyone's preferences are different, you are damned if you do, damned if you don't. But if someone replies and says "not interested", at least you're not left hanging. But there is absolutely zero excuse to reply further and be rude, just so you can reject someone who has already rejected you.
There was another thread, fairly recently, about whether you should respond to everyone that emails you on a dating site. I seem to recall most said the polite thing to do is send a message back even just to say you're not interested.
So, given that everyone's preferences are different, you are damned if you do, damned if you don't. But if someone replies and says "not interested", at least you're not left hanging. But there is absolutely zero excuse to reply further and be rude, just so you can reject someone who has already rejected you.
Everyone has different preferences with regard to this, I agree. In fact, my own vary greatly depending on the circumstance. Sometimes I just toss up my hands and wonder "Why did he even bother?" with some of the emails I have gotten. But, whatever my feeling, I appreciate the recognition of my humanity and the effort that goes into formulating even the most basic response. Dating is awkward in general, and online dating is even more so. Lashing out at someone who is trying to conduct themself as best they can is terribly warped.
I don't know which site the OP is using, but I'm guessing he could get banned if enough women report him. It might be for the best anyway.
I don't see anything wrong with not replying to an initial email, but the OP mentioned a back and forth which ended with the woman telling him she wasn't interested. That seems like common courtesy to me. Back when I was online dating I would rather a woman tell me she wasn't interested after we exchanged a few emails instead of just ignoring me. As was mentioned earlier, the OP should put it in his profile that if a woman isn't interested in dating him, don't return his email. And even if a woman sends him something that he doesn't like, being nasty isn't going to do anything for him.
Wait.. you cussed out someone because she told you she wasn't interested? You said she wanted a friend and apparently she changed her mind. How crude and rude of you
I met a man online and we sent emails and even talked on the phone. He was very demanding and wanted me to drive almost 2 hours to meet him and he was only going to drive 30 minutes. He called me before 7 am saying he had to meet me.
He accused me of not answering my phone, when he was dialing the wrong number. Plus he called me 'sweetie' and 'baby' which is a pet peeve of mine, when we have never met, I think it is a bit too personaly
Well, I sent him an email telling him it wasn't going to work out. I was nice about it too.
He just kept sending me more and more emails. Honestly, that type of behavior is a precursor to stalking
I was reading this woman's profile online and she stated she was currently seeing someone she met from the line and that she is only looking for activity partners and new friends so she can go to things like
Live concerts, dollar strolls, and other live events in the city
So is this her sneaky way of looking for someone else to sleep with besides her boyfriend? She stated her boyfriend works on the weekends and she has a lot of free time because of that.
Hidden Agenda? Why would I want my girlfriend spending time with other men just because I work on the weekends???
Hell yes it's a hidden agenda. If she's currently seeing someone.. she's NOT single! Turn The Page brother!
I'm curious - what message did you send her originally?
I said
" I see you love live musical events like I do along with public movie showings at the waterfront. I heard there will be tons of events at the waterfront in July. I';m a huge fan of jazz events and I was curious to know what are some of your favorite jazz artists"
That's when she came back with...."I don't find you attractive at all"
I don't think that's something you want to say to a man when you both live in the same city, not smart
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