No sex in almost six years (female, older, friend, therapist)
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yes, it does chap my 'azz', who isn't annoyed by stuff like that? surely you take issue with some of the inherent privileges that men have but women don't?
I somewhat disagree with the bolded part. I believe there is someone out there for everyone but it's not because they are physically attracted or physically attractive to someone. Some people fall in love based simply on personalities. I don't think their looks have anything to do with it. There are many, many people who never find a mate. If what you say is true then there would be an extremely small population of single people. In other words, not all ugly/unattractive people can find someone.
Well somewhat disagree is certainly easier to work with than strongly disagree
Not all people find someone. That does not mean they _cant_. It just means they have not. We should be cautious about equating "have not" with "can not" in this fashion so readily when the two are very different statements indeed.
I do not think this is related only to their attractiveness but the whole package. I genuinely think that no matter how you look there is someone out there who will find you attractive. And no matter how good you think you look there will be people who do NOT find you attractive.
For example much of the male population has a thing for Angelina Jolie. I see nothing whatsoever attractive about her. Give me Björk any day instead.
Many men have a thing for Asian women. My sex drive however appears to be racist and I have never once in my life found an Asian woman attractive sexually. They simply do nothing for me on a sexual level. Similarly obese and overweight people are unattractive to me but there is a whole porn magazine industry dedicated to nothing but pictures of the much larger woman. I was even recently made aware of a whole movement of guys who are physically turned on strongly by women who have had limbs amputated.
The point of the above is not to list women I personally am not attracted to – but to evidence the fact that just because someone does not appear attractive to me or you – that does not mean they are not attractive to anyone. There is likely many people who are more than a little attracted to them. As I said I doubt there are many, if any, people who are not attractive to someone.
The trick to remember is that attractiveness is not an attribute of the person themselves – but the person who is observing. It is subjective to the observer. I might say “X is attractive” but what I am actually saying is that “X is someone I find attractive”. I am making a statement about me - not them.
I am in shape and groom myself regularly (short haircut, shave, all the essentials basically); I'm neither overweight nor losing my hair- at least as far as I can tell. For all those who don't know, I am 5'3" and Asian. I've made two consultations with life coaches this week, although admittedly I am a little nervous telling them about this and having them say you're a lost cause.
It may be something that would happen to men, you're right. A woman wanting sex will get it easily, no effort needed.
Of course, if she lowers her standards enough. Thing is, it applies to men as well. Lower your standards, and you, too, can get laid by a potbellied chick with a lazy eye.
I am in shape and groom myself regularly (short haircut, shave, all the essentials basically); I'm neither overweight nor losing my hair- at least as far as I can tell. For all those who don't know, I am 5'3" and Asian. I've made two consultations with life coaches this week, although admittedly I am a little nervous telling them about this and having them say you're a lost cause.
They're not going to say that, their livelihoods revolve around fixing people.
Of course, if she lowers her standards enough. Thing is, it applies to men as well. Lower your standards, and you, too, can get laid by a potbellied chick with a lazy eye.
Hahahahahahahahaha! I had to laugh at the image of a potbellied chick with a lazy eye. Good one Fleetiebelle.
I go back to the same question I have made before. Have a guy approach 10 women in a bar, party, club, etc. and ask each one of them to go back to his place (to have sex) that night. How many women will totally accept and how many will either slap him or call police? Have a woman approach 10 men in the same settings and tell me how many will slap her and call police? See what I mean?
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