No sex in almost six years (date, wife, girlfriends, women)
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Not starting this to complain or start gender debates, but just want to post a serious question. Is it incredibly uncommon for a man in his 30s to not have sex for this long, while actively (attempted to get dates, meet people in social settings, etc) trying? Is it weird enough to assume multiple defects on my part or is there anyone else in a similar situation? I don't usually discuss this with people I know (partly out of embarrassment), so I was not sure if maybe it was more common than I thought.
Not starting this to complain or start gender debates, but just want to post a serious question. Is it incredibly uncommon for a man in his 30s to not have sex for this long, while actively (attempted to get dates, meet people in social settings, etc) trying? Is it weird enough to assume multiple defects on my part or is there anyone else in a similar situation? I don't usually discuss this with people I know (partly out of embarrassment), so I was not sure if maybe it was more common than I thought.
If a guy has gone that long without sex after trying, it may be in his best interest to contact an escort or head to the massage parlor. And no, going 6 years without sex in your 30s is not normal.
If a guy has gone that long without sex after trying, it may be in his best interest to contact an escort or head to the massage parlor. And no, going 6 years without sex in your 30s is not normal.
That's not true. I know a 30 year old who has never even been on a date in his life, much less had a girlfriend or whoppied!
Is it incredibly uncommon for a man in his 30s to not have sex for this long, while actively (attempted to get dates, meet people in social settings, etc) trying?
It is a lot more normal that you think - or seemingly than people on the forum would like to let on. Some people would like to paint a picture for you where everyone around you is having sex all the time but somehow you are not. It does not work that way. It is a continuum along which some people are doing it a lot and some people not at all.
However if you feel it is getting you down then the advice I would give would be the same advice I always give to people who are trying - and failing - to get more sex or to get into a relationship. STOP trying. It can lead to you becoming desperate - or seeming desperate. It can lead you to seeing people as sex objects and potential sex outlets rather than as individuals and people. Worst of all it can come to define you. Who "you" are can become "a person trying to get sex all the time".
Instead focus on yourself and your own life. Focus on bettering yourself every way you can physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually and so on. Be the person you want to be and the best version of that person you can.
You will find - as many who have followed my advice have - that things like sex and love and relationships will just fall into place themselves on your journey.
It is a lot more normal that you think - or seemingly than people on the forum would like to let on. Some people would like to paint a picture for you where everyone around you is having sex all the time but somehow you are not. It does not work that way. It is a continuum along which some people are doing it a lot and some people not at all.
However if you feel it is getting you down then the advice I would give would be the same advice I always give to people who are trying - and failing - to get more sex or to get into a relationship. STOP trying. It can lead to you becoming desperate - or seeming desperate. It can lead you to seeing people as sex objects and potential sex outlets rather than as individuals and people. Worst of all it can come to define you. Who "you" are can become "a person trying to get sex all the time".
Instead focus on yourself and your own life. Focus on bettering yourself every way you can physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually and so on. Be the person you want to be and the best version of that person you can.
You will find - as many who have followed my advice have - that things like sex and love and relationships will just fall into place themselves on your journey.
Oh, it's normal alright. In rural areas it's common. You might go for days before you even see someone's girlfriend instead of a wife and a ring. That means there are more rings than girlfriends. The guy may just have some standards too like my buddy. It's not like any and all the homely farmers daughters at 250 and no teeth haven't tried to bed him. IMO, he shows some class by having the willpower to say no. It can get pretty hard at times to avoid ones that pretty much throw it at you if you want it, except they are Sooooooo NASTY!! You'll be fine little man. Sooner or later you'll strike it lucky. The best part is he doesn't feel sorry for himself and I don't either. This is like the first time I have talked about it in a couple years. He's not worried.
Some people do not measure the worth of their life by how much sex they have in it. Adolescents likely do more so than mature adults at a guess, but peoples measures of their life’s worth tend to be as individual as they are.
If that is your measure of the worth of your life then more power to you - but another person's life is not a "waste" because they do not share your opinion in this regard.
Some people do not measure the worth of their life by how much sex they have in it. Adolescents likely do more so than mature adults at a guess, but peoples measures of their life’s worth tend to be as individual as they are.
If that is your measure of the worth of your life then more power to you - but another person's life is not a "waste" because they do not share your opinion in this regard.
We're talking about guys here, not women, and for most guys, sex plays a huge role in their lives. The reason most guys even strive to have decent careers, make more money, drive a certain kind of car, and afford nice clothes is so that they can attract women...and why do they want to attract women? For sex. Sure, you'll always have guys who don't think sex is a big deal, but they aren't the norm whatsoever.
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You'll be fine little man. Sooner or later you'll strike it lucky. The best part is he doesn't feel sorry for himself and I don't either. This is like the first time I have talked about it in a couple years. He's not worried.