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Some people can't find someone to snuggle with or to have sex with. For those the only option may be to pay for it. If you need it, It's probably healthier than being alone.
But isn't it sort of still being alone when the other person is there only for the monetary aspect and is essentially only filling a physical void for only a fleeting moment or 2? The emotional void will never be satisfied, at least not imo. Unless these people who need to pay for it are loaded, I can't imagine an escort or SSP (Snuggle Service Provider-just made that up ) comes cheap.
But isn't it sort of still being alone when the other person is there only for the monetary aspect and is essentially only filling a physical void for only a fleeting moment or 2? The emotional void will never be satisfied, at least not imo. Unless these people who need to pay for it are loaded, I can't imagine an escort or SSP (Snuggle Service Provider-just made that up ) comes cheap.
If I was in that spot I would look for a SWB (Snuggler with Benefits) so it wouldn't break the bank having to pay for the SSP (Snuggle Service Provider).
I can only do that if I slept with the girl. If I haven't slept with her I'm very far from a touchy-feely guy. Paying for it, I guess it doesn't make any difference to me what they do.. but it doesn't seem worth it!
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If I was in that spot I would look for a SWB (Snuggler with Benefits) so it wouldn't break the bank having to pay for the SSP (Snuggle Service Provider).
In many instances strippers are offering these very services. A seasoned one knows how to work a guy, knows what he needs and why he is there. Not all dudes in these places are there just to look at naked women. A lot of them go there for the faux attention, the flirting, petting, having a beautiful woman snuggle up against them whispering in their ear. These guys like making a connection with the girls, whether they realize it is purely business to these girls or not.
I knew a dancer who told me how she spent more time talking and listening to these customers than giving actual lap dances. These men craved the attention which they could never get from a woman on their own without paying for it, at least not very attractive women. She felt like a therapist at times or providing them with a girlfriend experience with physical but not sexual intimacy.
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I'm not putting a negative spin on it, I am just saying what I think could happen. In this instance, I think the person would be worse off than before it began.
Myself, I cannot imagine snuggling with someone you don't know. When my friend and I were both single, we would snuggle up and watch a movie, but we knew eachother. I can't imagine doing that with a complete stranger...
This is my opinion.
Fair enough, everyone has their own opinion, which is why I don't think anyone should be stopping the 'snuggling business', comparing it to prostitution. Are we that cynical that we can't believe that a man would pay a woman just to cuddle him? Hell, even I would, that sounds pathetic to some, I don't care really...
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Nor did I put a negative spin on it. I speak of the RISKS to people who are starved for affection precisely because they ARE starved, and any semblance of relief obtained in a business transaction is illusion, whereas actual contact with people even fleetingly (relationships come and go) at least has the social scenario to temper it.
Some might have an unhealthy addiction to it in lieu of so-called 'real' affection, but until they find someone I don't see anything wrong with it if it fills them. Don't look down on it, touch has the some beneficial effects on the brain whether you pay for it or not.
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Trimac, I think you hit the nail on the head. When people are in "normal" and "healthy" relationships who have no issues with being affectionate and they find a compatible partner to receive and reciprocate, there shouldn't be a need to want to pay for it. Imo, people who have to pay for it are missing something in their lives and it's beyond what anyone else can understand. I agree with what someone else said (I think it was Jasper), snuggling and cuddling is more intimate than sex itself. I have always said that kissing is much more intimate than sex. Sex is an act that doesn't always involve emotions. Snuggling and cuddling and touch is a sense of security. To feel enveloped in someone's arms gives one a sense of being somewhere secure where no one can harm them. There's a significant difference being held by your spouse, lover, SO versus a hug from a friend. It's a very deep and mental emotion. To have to pay for intimacy, imo, is far beyond paying for the "happy ending" or fetishes that someone might consider "not normal" or willing to provide their partner with. I don't think the issue is with the person taking the money to provide this intimacy, as I see it as providing a service to satisfy someone.
Thanks, it really is beyond some people's understanding. One can act all high and mighty thinking it's so easy for everyone to get into a loving relationship, when it's not. I'm not saying we're not CAPABLE, it just might be a lot more difficult for us.
Yes, sometimes I don't think of sex itself as all that intimate or loving. Especially when the respective people are selfish about it. I also think kissing without love is just as empty feeling.
When you're in love, kissing, touching, stroking or sex should ALL feel magical.
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In many instances strippers are offering these very services. A seasoned one knows how to work a guy, knows what he needs and why he is there. Not all dudes in these places are there just to look at naked women. A lot of them go there for the faux attention, the flirting, petting, having a beautiful woman snuggle up against them whispering in their ear. These guys like making a connection with the girls, whether they realize it is purely business to these girls or not.
I knew a dancer who told me how she spent more time talking and listening to these customers than giving actual lap dances. These men craved the attention which they could never get from a woman on their own without paying for it, at least not very attractive women. She felt like a therapist at times or providing them with a girlfriend experience with physical but not sexual intimacy.
I hope the whole stereotype that 'men just care about sex' dies off. We need loving too, we're not beasts without feelings.
I hope the whole stereotype that 'men just care about sex' dies off. We need loving too, we're not beasts without feelings.
I don't think most women believe that men just care about sex, that's a belief shared mainly by the jaded ones.
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