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There's a 21 year age gap between me and my wife. Some people are ok with it but there are a lot of people who really have a major problem and seem to want to let their opinion be known even when it's really not welcome. It's becoming very irritating. I just wanted some advice on how to deal with this.
Your life will be so much happier when you decide not to let other people's opinions, which you can't change, affect your life. Because you know what they say about opinions. And in reality, who gives a crap what others think. Its your life.
There's a 21 year age gap between me and my wife. Some people are ok with it but there are a lot of people who really have a major problem and seem to want to let their opinion be known even when it's really not welcome. It's becoming very irritating. I just wanted some advice on how to deal with this.
Yeah, it's not just annoying it's beyond rude. I think you should tailor your response to the person based on how well you know them, with strangers with an "it's none of your business" and you get nicer as you move up the "known" and friendly with totem pole.
Not sure what to say, some people don't have a filter and just sorta run their mouths off when they shouldn't.
Hmmm. I remember a guy here on the city forums talking about his much younger girlfriend, and some issues he was having with her.
Most people kind of made fun of him, for dating a girl so young, and she was just with him for the money and security, and so on and so forth.
But you know, at the end of the day, all that matters is; Are you and your wife happy? Yes? Then just say "We're happy" smile, and walk away. You're probably going to have to draw your lines in the sand at some point. If people are going to give you crap, they get one warning, and then you put them on ice.
Which one of you is the older? If it's you, just smile, and chirp at them, "Oh, she just looks young for her age. She's actually pushing 60. Good genes, I guess." (Big grin)
Who are these people? Strangers? Acquaintances who are meeting your wife for the first time?
Most of the negative people are either jealous, or concerned that their partner might get ideas and trade them in, seeing as how it IS possible, sometimes, for some people, in some relationships. If they make remarks that are unwelcome, just remember that they are probably insecure and rude, so it will gall them to smile and tell them that you're happy together.
My wife is only about 8 years younger, but my FWB is 27 years younger. Nobody really seems to care or comment when I'm out with either or both, though, so I haven't had to deal with rude people.
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