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I used to think girls asked guys out all the time in high school...
That Never happened in my HS. And you had situations where girls liked the guy, knew he liked her also but she wouldn't say ANYTHING. Because it wouldve broken the social contract of Guys asking girls. So alot of the time they stayed alone because of that.
It worked out for me because it prepared me for the real world
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That Never happened in my HS. And you had situations where girls liked the guy, knew he liked her also but she wouldn't say ANYTHING. Because it wouldve broken the social contract of Guys asking girls. So alot of the time they stayed alone because of that.
It worked out for me because it prepared me for the real world
I girl once asked me out, but I wasn't sure if it was a joke, at the time I just assumed it was. I was too shy to give an answer. We were 13 so I guess it was the usual being silly anyway.
Yes, I have asked men out. Usually when I am travelling for business. I am alone, want to check out a new place, not too into going out to dinner alone. And, I have a nice dinner budget to blow...already on the company dime. I have had amazing experiences...usually these men are local, or travelling for business like me...everyone knows this is just for a good time, for now...and it has been awesome.
But...the set and setting is completely different from meeting a guy where I live...I can't see myself going to a bar here, and buying a man a drink, and asking him out...I think that would set an odd tone for a relationship...
I've been an adult for almost 40 years. Close to 30 of those years I was (and am) single and unattached.
I was only asked out once for an actual date during the entire time and that was when I used to be on a dating web site. It happened about 5 months ago. I had to turn her down due to no chemistry and the lack of things in common.
I was shocked that she asked because that never happened to me before.
From reading these posts I get the impression that it's okay for a man to be turned down but not a women. Being turned down is part of the dating game. It will happen.
Yes, I would welcome it. It's long overdue. This "men enjoy the chase" is crap to me. I really don't enjoy it and would rather get the feeling it was more mutual. My acceptance percentage for getting a date is extremely low. I could easily see women having a much higher percentage than men do if they did more asking.
I think the closest I will ever get to a woman asking me out is one who initiates communication on a dating site. At least as a guy you know there MIGHT be interest. Usually, after they meet me, they change their mind, at least lately. Can't get a second date to save my life. Not making any of the classic guy mistakes either, such as being rude, talking about the ex, not paying for stuff, etc. Lately, the women I'm meeting are either complete flakes or have so many guys after them, they can only fit me in on a Tuesday and I never get a return call. Its f'ing ridiculous. OK, there's my rant going off topic, sorry. Actually, not totally off topic, as women don't have to ask guys out if they're attractive. It is what it is.
I have had a couple women ask me to dance at a club back in the days when I did that, but it went nowhere.
Im so lonely i'd go on a date with a hippo with the face of a bulldog if she asked me. I'd even cuddle her through the night, but I may have problems if she falls for me.
how is that a compliment or a plus for her? oh, that's right. It's not.
I was asked out by a woman 6 weeks ago today, but had to kindly (sadly for me) refuse and sincerely told her it wasn't her and that I was in process of a big move and was way over my head in things to do in the short time I had left before that which was very very true.
Women don't ask out guys, they wait to be asked out, weight their options and take their pick. Of course they're some outliers but for the vast majority of women it's the truth.(maybe not the majority of options, but the not asking out part) We start this in middle school and HS. Look at the prom for example, Girls don't ask guys to the prom, guys ask girls , and we Continue with that model for the rest of our life.
I asked or else I wouldn't have gone, which I told you before. I was not the only girl at my school that had to ask someone either.
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how is that a compliment or a plus for her? oh, that's right. It's not.
Well I was responding to the assertion that a guy wouldn't take up an offer from a girl if he didn't find her attractive. I've never been asked out before, I wonder if you know what that feels like?
Well I was responding to the assertion that a guy wouldn't take up an offer from a girl if he didn't find her attractive. I've never been asked out before, I wonder if you know what that feels like?
Well I guess he would take up an offer from a girl he didn't find attractive -- but it's an offer to use her. Again, that is not a compliment for a woman. I would rather just be alone if that's my option, to get 'used' by some guy. Please. It appears that men think a woman having the 'bottom of the barrel' option is still a "PLUS!" for her when in reality it's about just as good as no option at all.
did you really just say that last line? Hel-lo! A month or so ago some man attempted to approach me in a grocery store, I can tell you what he was wearing and everything. I remember because it's the only time that has happened in the 32 years I've been alive. So yea, I know how it feels.
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oh, that's right. It's not.
