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several times and would not do it again. obviously they only want to be asked out by women they consider attractive, if you're a woman and not very attractive there's no point in even bothering with this.
I've been an adult for almost 40 years. Close to 30 of those years I was (and am) single and unattached.
I was only asked out once for an actual date during the entire time and that was when I used to be on a dating web site. It happened about 5 months ago. I had to turn her down due to no chemistry and the lack of things in common.
I was shocked that she asked because that never happened to me before.
From reading these posts I get the impression that it's okay for a man to be turned down but not a women. Being turned down is part of the dating game. It will happen.
Yes, I would welcome it. It's long overdue. This "men enjoy the chase" is crap to me. I really don't enjoy it and would rather get the feeling it was more mutual. My acceptance percentage for getting a date is extremely low. I could easily see women having a much higher percentage than men do if they did more asking.
Well I guess he would take up an offer from a girl he didn't find attractive -- but it's an offer to use her. Again, that is not a compliment for a woman. I would rather just be alone if that's my option, to get 'used' by some guy. Please. It appears that men think a woman having the 'bottom of the barrel' option is still a "PLUS!" for her when in reality it's about just as good as no option at all.
did you really just say that last line? Hel-lo! A month or so ago some man attempted to approach me in a grocery store, I can tell you what he was wearing and everything. I remember because it's the only time that has happened in the 32 years I've been alive. So yea, I know how it feels.
Yes.
I won't do it anymore because I've been told it's a huge turn-off because men like 'the chase'.
I used to ask men out all the time and I've only had 2 dates come of it, both didn't go past the first date.
Absolutely not true at least in my case I don't mind her asking me out in fact it is kind of flattering and I have been asked out a couple times and as far as the success rate well it is the same for any dating sometimes it just fizzles out.
As far as not accepting I have always tried to be respectful and make her feel like she is something special but just not for me, which is how I really feel about it, not just a excuse to let her down easier.
^^ I agree with this. I have in the past asked out men and with mixed results. But... whereas a woman will at least go on one date with a man that she initially isn't attracted to, most men won't even go out once with a woman that they don't find initially attractive.
And I think that if a woman is looking for a bf rather than an fwb, it's best to let the men do the chasing.
Are we talking about just going up to a guy and asking him out? What I am thinking is flirting and letting a little tension build first then asking him out which is exactly how I would ask a woman out. I barely ever just walk up to a stranger and try to put moves on.
very interesting post, i have been asked out numerous times.
they were good women every time but it never went anywhere. probably bek i was toodense to realize they wanted it to go somewhere.
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