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Ok, for the past two weeks my uncle has talked about this girl that lives beside him. He claims shes pretty, hard-working, shes going to school and has a part-time job. He says that he has talked to her about me as well and she wants to meet me. He says that we would be perfect for each other since we both like to save money.
Anyway, what I'm concerned about is our age difference. I'm 26 and she's only 19. I almost feel like a pervert just thinking about the idea even though she is of age. Another thing is we are at two different points in life. She's going to school and I have a career. I also moved back home last year due to my dad going through surgery due to cancer. Now, I'm staying with him to help him financially so I don't even have a place of my own anymore.
Can I have some of your opinions on this? I just don't know. I also haven't dated in 3-4 years.
Age is only a number, a 7 year difference is practicaly nothing. Dont worry about it and dont let your social inhibitions get in the way. Youre like millions of 40 year old dirty men, who say how they arent attracted to 18 year olds, yet masturbate to porn vids with those exact girls.
Hmmm the age difference isn't such a big deal. If she was 30 and you were 37, you and no one else would think twice. The thing is, she's still a teenager. The fact she still has several years left in college should deter you. She's going to change a lot and come into contact with a lot of men her age going through a similar period of transition. If you're ready to deal with that then go for it. I know when I was 19 I was crazy partying, dealing with drama of other college girls out of high school, immature boys, classes, exams, homework etc etc.
Ok, for the past two weeks my uncle has talked about this girl that lives beside him. He claims shes pretty, hard-working, shes going to school and has a part-time job. He says that he has talked to her about me as well and she wants to meet me. He says that we would be perfect for each other since we both like to save money.
Anyway, what I'm concerned about is our age difference. I'm 26 and she's only 19. I almost feel like a pervert just thinking about the idea even though she is of age. Another thing is we are at two different points in life. She's going to school and I have a career. I also moved back home last year due to my dad going through surgery due to cancer. Now, I'm staying with him to help him financially so I don't even have a place of my own anymore.
Can I have some of your opinions on this? I just don't know. I also haven't dated in 3-4 years.
You have GOT to be friggin' kidding me.
Go meet her and quit worrying over stupid $#!+, okay? She's not a child and you're not some grandfather.
OP, it's not an arranged marriage, nor is there any commitment required. It's a meeting, maybe some dates. You either hit it off or you don't, so why obsess on it? Anyway, it sounds like you could use the dating practice at this point, so I don't see any downside. If it doesn't go anywhere, at least you've made your uncle happy (he probably has your best interests at heart) and met someone new.
Go meet her and quit worrying over stupid $#!+, okay? She's not a child and you're not some grandfather.
Yep!! I don't see what it could hurt to go have lunch or something casual. If you like her enough to continue casual meetings, why not? You don't have to think in permanent terms: you're just meeting her and hopefully having a nice convo with a cute girl. You both know this isn't forever.
If it turns out you don't like her well enough, then say thanks and continue on. Please don't stress over this...and if you can't get past the age, tell your uncle you don't want to go. You don't need excuses. You'll be fine...stop worrying!
My personal rule is my age/2 +7. That's my minimum. I'm not saying the OP would be wrong in doing it but everyone has their own age difference that they are comfortable with.
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