broke up with my bf of 4 years (dating, boyfriends, women)
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we have been on and off for four years( he always broke up with me). well we started talking again in december after being broken up for 11 months. Things weren't the same , he had an additional 6 partners in that 11 months of being broken up and although it bothered me I tried not to let it affect the relationship. But it didn't work out so well. I am very sensitive and just thinking of the fact of other women being in his bed bothers me. I am very bitter about that so I would sometimes take my pain out on him. It would come across to him that I was not being respectful or didn't care about his feelings. So one day after an argument we texted and he said be around me for a while. Well that was a month ago and i still have had no contact with him, so after much thought i sent him an email saying this "So I just wanted to make things clear that I am done with our relationship. I would appreciate if you put all my stuff in a plastic bag and leave it on your side porch and I will pick it up during the day while you’re at school. Please don’t contact me either concerning this message or anything else, we have nothing to talk about. Thanks" was this a good idea or not?
It appears that he was already done with the relationship since he hasn't been around in a month anyway. Ex Boyfriends are Ex Boyfriends for a reason. Quit going back with this guy and quit leaving your stuff at someone else's place even if you are dating long term. If you don't live together there is no reason for your stuff to be anywhere but in your home. If you spend the night with someone pack an overnight bag and be sure to bring it home with you when you leave.
Wow. A month no contact via text. This is immature behavior. It sounds immature on both sides to be honest. Time to move on and both of you seem to need a dose of emotional maturity. I don't know your age so perhaps you both are very young.
I really want to move on but I love him so much. We had our whole lives planned together and I honestly can't picture my life with another man. I know why I''m emotionally immature ( because I have problems trusting him from previous break up and I'm bitter about a lot of things from our past) But I don't know what his issue is.
Does it matter what his issue is? Maybe his issue is that you have so many issues. Either move on or don't but quit whining about it either way and making excuses why you JUST CAN'T MOVE ON.
He's not ready for a commitment. You're young. You have your whole life ahead of you.
In 11 months, he was with 6 different girls - that should tell you something... And, if you can't trust someone, then seriously, you can't be with them, because you'll always wonder if he'll cheat, etc......
No one says love is easy, but you should really should move on.
Good Luck OP.. I Wish you the best..
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