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Old 09-28-2012, 03:21 PM
 
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Trust is both possible and necessary, though it must be earned, but if you're paranoid you'll never trust anyone.
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Old 09-28-2012, 03:23 PM
 
Location: Homeless
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Sadly even the romantic I am I don't believe you can trust ANYONE 100% maybe 95%.....maybe
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Old 09-28-2012, 03:24 PM
 
Location: Australia
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I would trust him even if he worked as a driver for a brothel, if I loved him.

^^ that's essentially the problem in my mind. If you have to be willing to take it to that point, beyond reason, then forget it then.
I don't get what you mean?

What point is "beyond reason"?

The driver in the brothel part...do you mean that is an unreasonable level of trust to ask of someone?

Or an unreasonable level of trust to give someone?

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Old 09-28-2012, 03:28 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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I don't get what you mean?

What point is "beyond reason"?

The driver in the brothel part...do you mean that is an unreasonable level of trust to ask of someone?

Or an unreasonable level of trust to give someone?


oh. I meant the last part. Makes no sense to be trusting someone to the point where you beleive you can throw them in any situation and nothing will change simply because you 'trust' him.
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Old 09-28-2012, 03:40 PM
 
Location: Australia
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oh. I meant the last part. Makes no sense to be trusting someone to the point where you beleive you can throw them in any situation and nothing will change simply because you 'trust' him.

Some people do have that sort of bond.

I know I rubbish the hell out of my ex but in the early years we did. Even now I still know if something really terrible happened to me like a coma or something, he would be at my bedside like a faithful old dog. I know he never cheated on me or even thought about it.

It is such a close bond that sleeping with a third party would be like taking an ax to your partner. It just doesn't cross your mind. There is no temptation in the world worth risking the bliss and perfection you have at home.

It does exist. If you are lucky enough to find your literal "other half" then you have no interest in anyone else, no matter how attractive they may be. It's called "being in love". You are in your own little world for two and no one else really comes into it at all.
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Old 09-28-2012, 03:50 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Some people do have that sort of bond.

I know I rubbish the hell out of my ex but in the early years we did. Even now I still know if something really terrible happened to me like a coma or something, he would be at my bedside like a faithful old dog. I know he never cheated on me or even thought about it.

It is such a close bond that sleeping with a third party would be like taking an ax to your partner. It just doesn't cross your mind. There is no temptation in the world worth risking the bliss and perfection you have at home.

It does exist. If you are lucky enough to find your literal "other half" then you have no interest in anyone else, no matter how attractive they may be. It's called "being in love". You are in your own little world for two and no one else really comes into it at all.

Sorry, but you don't know he would be doing any of those things. That's what you think/like to beleive he would do.

I won't be finding my other half or whatever that nonsense is, seeing as I don't trust any of them as far as I could throw one in the first place....all that talk you're saying sounds like a bunch of fantasy/movie talk far as I'm concerned.

And there obviously is temptation worth the risk seeing as these people cheat and get divorced at the rate of a little more then half (not in your country but in this one anyways).
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Old 09-28-2012, 04:01 PM
 
Location: Australia
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Sorry, but you don't know he would be doing any of those things. That's what you think/like to beleive he would do.

I won't be finding my other half or whatever that nonsense is, seeing as I don't trust any of them as far as I could throw one in the first place....all that talk you're saying sounds like a bunch of fantasy/movie talk far as I'm concerned.

And there obviously is temptation worth the risk seeing as these people cheat and get divorced at the rate of a little more then half (not in your country but in this one anyways).
LOL Doll...makes a change for me not to be the most cynical in the room!

It does exist, truly. We all know couples who would never dream of cheating, even you.
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Old 09-28-2012, 04:13 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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LOL Doll...makes a change for me not to be the most cynical in the room!

It does exist, truly. We all know couples who would never dream of cheating, even you.
ha. well either way your name is still 'msannthorpe' mine isn't!

I know what people claim they have, I don't know anything for sure and neither do they. If opportunity present itself in the perfect form, many of them would cheats.
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Old 09-28-2012, 04:54 PM
 
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can you even break trust into a percentage?!?
its something you either have or don't, you cant fraction it out based on what you find to be priorities in life.

i really do not get people that say "well yes i trust him/HER...BUT...."
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Old 09-28-2012, 05:04 PM
 
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It's like Master Yoda said.

Trust, or trust not. There is no percentage based interpretation.

Ok, maybe he didn't say that.

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