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To attend or not? The head (the one on my shoulders, THANK YOU!) is saying to just get over it and go anyway. They'll be many other friends present to socialize with, but my heart is really not wanting to see her showing off her guy. And the thing that is a little bit of a head-scratcher for me is that even though she says she's totally in love with said boyfriend, there still exists some vestiage of attraction between us. A couple of female acquaintances have mentioned it, and hell, even I've noted it, dumb ignorant male that I am.
To attend or not? The head (the one on my shoulders, THANK YOU!) is saying to just get over it and go anyway. They'll be many other friends present to socialize with, but my heart is really not wanting to see her showing off her guy. And the thing that is a little bit of a head-scratcher for me is that even though she says she's totally in love with said boyfriend, there still exists some vestiage of attraction between us. A couple of female acquaintances have mentioned it, and hell, even I've noted it, dumb ignorant male that I am.
unless i had some other gal lined up who would be going too i'd skip it. why bother? go do something fun (the house-party won't be) and don't beat yourself up about it
If you feel like going then go, have a good time, be cordial with the old girlfriend, play nice with the new boyfriend then move on and enjoy all the other women who are there. If you don't feel like going then don't go. I would consider the potential evening though and if you think there is going to be any overdramatic scenes or is the old girlfriend the type that will either stay on the other side of the room or is she the type that will introduce you to the new guy then move on? You know her much better than any of us here. If it were me I would go whether the old girlfriend is there with her new boyfriend or not. There is no reason you cannot be in the same room at the same time and at the very least be cordial it isn't like you have to chat with her all night. A quick hello, nice to see you, hope you've been great will suffice in my opinion.
she wants to you to come, so she can parade around new flavour in front of your face. She wants you to get angry/vengeful, and think "Oh man, look what I had..."
I say go, don't be rude or obnoxious, but just be respectful and have a good time. If you still like her, and she likes you, the new pawn(BF) could be ditched.
I'll tell you from my experience though: Let. It. Go. Move on, trust me it isn't worth it. The fact that she may show up with new BF is a sign of some serious issues.
Just go to the party, move on and while you may have to talk to her, try to ignore her if at all possible and take care of yourself. Have a good time.
Oh man, you're gonna go to try to win her back. I see it.
Bad idea, man. Bad idea.
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