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Again, no one is telling you to "settle." We're just pointing out that you will probably die unmarried and alone because you have so many requirements for what you want AND you have the unappealing trait of bashing people because they don't meet those requirements. Come on, IDDY, you're in your 40s. By now you should be familiar with the term "live and let live." If you are really okay with the prospect of remaining unmarried, you wouldn't feel the need to say over and over and over again that you refuse to settle. Your defensiveness about it speaks volumes. Methinks thou dost protest too much.
I just hope the marriage will be good. Otherwise there will be one more frustrated woman.
Every saint has a past, every sinner a future. Something to ponder when you look down on those who've divorced. Also, there is often a reason or series of reasons why a marriage failed. So, yes, there are times when it best to part and move forward. Most of the time it is no ones business but those who were once married to each other.
If more people had standards we would see less divorce. Actually divorce is my business if I was dating the person.
You may feel that it is important to know WHETHER someone was divorced, and I can understand that. But you are not entitled to the details of anyone's prior relationships. The details are their business, and if they choose to share them with you, that's one thing, but they don't owe you or anyone else outside of that marriage any explanations. If I were a divorced man, I wouldn't even bother with you once you make your requirements known. I would just say, "Well, nice knowing you," and let you figure it out.
ETA: Trust me, plenty of divorced people have standards. It takes two to make or break a marriage. The reality is that you cannot control what your spouse does. People change. To imply in any way that not having standards is a character flaw inherent in divorced people is not only arrogant, it's stupid. Quite a few people are divorced BECAUSE they have standards.
You may feel that it is important to know WHETHER someone was divorced, and I can understand that. But you are not entitled to the details of anyone's prior relationships. The details are their business, and if they choose to share them with you, that's one thing, but they don't owe you or anyone else outside of that marriage any explanations. If I were a divorced man, I wouldn't even bother with you once you make your requirements known. I would just say, "Well, nice knowing you," and let you figure it out.
When dating a divorced person that person needs to know why they divorced, to avoid warning signs. When I dated a few divorced men I always found out why they divorced and all of them were to blame.
If more people had standards we would see less divorce. Actually divorce is my business if I was dating the person.
I thought you wouldn't date a divorced person... If so it is none of your business, still.
I have standards. High standards. That is why I divorced. Why, when I remarried the set of mistakes that happened the first time around were not going to happen again.
It is why I married someone who was smarter, more articulate, and total different class. I upgraded in a major huge fashion.
The never married type are usually well preserved...If you are divorced...you might be out of your league...the never married type are usually smarter than the - lets get married type and lets screw it up type.
I thought you wouldn't date a divorced person... If so it is none of your business, still.
I have standards. High standards. That is why I divorced. Why, when I remarried the set of mistakes that happened the first time around were not going to happen again.
It is why I married someone who was smarter, more articulate, and total different class. I upgraded in a major huge fashion.
If I dated one it would be my business. However I don't date divorced people so do not care why they divorced.
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