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The man was thinking "after I say I Do, I get to have sex any time I want for the rest of my life" and the woman is thinking "after I say I Do, I don't have to have sex ever again".
Yup.
Do you know how they finally got that BP oil well in the Gulf closed?
They installed a wedding band and it quit putting out.
Have you spoken to her about it yet? Maybe she feels sex is the only thing you want her for, so she's withdrawing to check if there's anything else you have to offer, to make her feel less like a sex slave and more like someone who is truly loved and taken seriously. My bet is that the thrill is gone, and she's looking for some depth, something more substantial than the sex.
And this is the part where I say being sex-based too early in a relationship, for too many people, is a mistake. Woo her, she wants to feel special now. Put on your face and show her that you genuinely care about her and are more useful than just the sex. Women are stimulated emotionally. Appeal to it. But first you need to communicate with her and understand why she's suddenly being "a prude" in the first place.
Have you spoken to her about it yet? Maybe she feels sex is the only thing you want her for, so she's withdrawing to check if there's anything else you have to offer, to make her feel less like a sex slave and more like someone who is truly loved and taken seriously. My bet is that the thrill is gone, and she's looking for some depth, something more substantial than the sex.
And this is the part where I say being sex-based too early in a relationship, for too many people, is a mistake. Woo her, she wants to feel special now. Put on your face and show her that you genuinely care about her and are more useful than just the sex. Women are stimulated emotionally. Appeal to it. But first you need to communicate with her and understand why she's suddenly being "a prude" in the first place.
That's nice.
Everything you say is true.
I'll add....a nice massage will help things.
Favorite dinner, wine, etc.
Flowers......
Women like to be wooed....hell, man, I like to be woooed.
Originally Posted by Ascension2012
The scenario I had in mind, was when a couple decides to have sex, but then the woman starts listing dos and donts, as theyre about to get it on. Its a losing proposition fr a man, each and every time, because despite what they tell you, women dont want a guy who asks for permission before trying a new position or introduci g something new during sex. Most want a man, who will pick them up and put them in a position HE wants and get to work, not waste time and immersion by asking "honey, do you think we can try doggy today with the lights on? Would that be ok with you?"
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Originally Posted by Betsy84
Are you a woman?
More like a virgin who watches an excessive amount of porn. Seriously, the guy often comes off like he has never experienced the realities of actual sex. Just little clues here and there.
I feel for you. I don't know what the problem is in this situation. I'm with you. You are her man so why did she go from green light to red light. Good luck
Surprised that there's room enough for a woman in that bed, with your ego crowding everything else out, but let's talk about the OP's problem.
When most new relationships start, they go through a phase where the sex is varied and very very often. That usually lasts between 90-120 days. It can be briefer, or can last for years, but the general rule is 90-120 days. Outside of that window hormones begin to balance out, and you both get into a routine. Guys tend to think that that phase will last forever, and some take offense when it doesn't, but the simple truth is that most women aren't meant to go at that pace forever. They then begin to explore feelings of security, long term goals, and a man's indication that he will be a long term privider for her and (if needed) children. Your girl appears to be slowing down. It doesn't appear that she is using sex as a bargaining chip for things, so that's good, she however does appear to be feeling that sex for you is a higher priority than it is for her. She also appears to be wondering if you have respect for her and her feelings. You may want to be keen to her feelings more so than sex until you reach an equilibrium.
Be a man, take whats yours. The worst thing a man can do is to ask for permission when it comes to sex life.
Oh, this is good! Good for a few years in lockup.
OP, has there been any change in the relationship status since the start? An engagement? Marriage? Pregnancy? Whatever the case, your only choice now pretty much is to talk to her about it. The "we need to talk" talk.
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