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So I'm 19, never kissed a girl/dated and although it doesn't bother me, I've been thinking about it alot lately. I personally think the biggest deterrent to finding to finding a relationship is the possibility that it might detract from my ability to perform in my studies as well as perform in my leadership organizations.
Here's some background info on me:
I'm currently a sophomore at a top 30 uni where i have a full ride scholarship (mostly academic). I double major in Finance and Math, and obtained a 4.0/4.0 my first year. I interned for Merrill Lynch in their special situations group within the middle market proprietary credit investing desk after freshman year and will be going to Credit Suisse in their Houston I-Banking group for oil/natural gas this summer. I also have 2 officer positions in legit organizations and have a part-time job as a resident adviser.
I guess I'm a bit jealous when I see my friends all cute/happy with their gfs/bfs. Really makes me want to go out there and get one haha. Just worried about the consequences (friend broke-up after a 2 yr relationship, depressed as hell and his grades have been slipping).
What do you guys think? Advice would be appreciated!
Wow I admire your ambition and achievements. You're smart for not wanting to be distracted. However, I'd say you can definitely find a balance between school/work and fun/pleasure. It seems like you already have a good head on your shoulders, so just apply that to choosing a girl to date. I say, instead of trying to look for a girl, just let it happen organically. If you meet a girl and there's a good vibe and a spark and she seems to have it together like you do, then go for it. And make sure she respects your devotion to your studies. If you find yourself abandoning things that you normally do or your school/work hustle is slipping because you're accommodating her all the time, then you must move on to someone who won't make the relationship all about them. Just use common sense when making a selection. And don't rush to find a girl. Much luck!
its inevitable more than a question. Not a train you can stop bro. People you meet come within the lifestyle you choose. Your girl(s) will come from you classes or campus when you least expected. the question is will you be willing to roll the dice
What's the point of life if you can't have a balance? If you can't balance your life in college you won't be able to balance your life when you're working either.
Judging from your list of achievements... yes. There's always a chance you'll meet a great girl, break up two years later and have to deal with that storm of emotions... but guess what? Better to get experience with that feeling now, when you're just a college student, than years from now when you have a real life and more responsibilities.
It's never too early to learn work-life balance, and really, college is the best opportunity you'll ever have to date (as almost all of the women are unmarried).
Everybody's busy. Everyone has reasons they should or shouldn't do stuff.
Not dating is a choice you have made for a reason that must matter to you.
You're still young. Just relax, and if you meet someone interesting, ask them out.
But don't recite your resume to them.
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