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I met a guy who seems to be interested in a relationship. During our conversation, he started laying down some groundrules and one of them was that if I see him out with other women I can't get "angry" or question him about it. I asked if he is proposing an open relationship & he said no. He explained that he has lady friends and he doesn't want to be with a girl who is the jealous type. Is this a red flag? Do you think this guy may be a potential cheater or jerk? I really like him and I finally found someone who wants to be in a committed relationship with me and I don't want to mess up
The fact that he is laying down the law so early in the relationship is a big red flag to me. It's ok if he has female friends just like it's ok for you to have male friends, and there shouldn't be any jealousy involved. Why can't you "question" him or talk to him about his female friends? What's the big deal? It seems like he wants this to be off-limits. Whenever two people are in a relationship, its only natural to want to know about each other's friends/acquaintances (male or female) and even hangout.
What other ground rules has he given you? I sense that he may have 'control' issues.
I would quickly dispose of anyone who tried to impose ground rules on me as a condition for a relationship. It creates an atmosphere of inequality. A relationship isn't boot camp.
True story. "Laying down ground rules" is more of a red flag than that other stuff.
I met a guy who seems to be interested in a relationship. During our conversation, he started laying down some groundrules and one of them was that if I see him out with other women I can't get "angry" or question him about it. I asked if he is proposing an open relationship & he said no. He explained that he has lady friends and he doesn't want to be with a girl who is the jealous type. Is this a red flag? Do you think this guy may be a potential cheater or jerk? I really like him and I finally found someone who wants to be in a committed relationship with me and I don't want to mess up
Both of you are too uptight and need to relax.
He's uptight to even bring that up and you're uptight for having to post it on a random internet forum.
Yes, it is odd that he'd bring it up like that. Tell him you hope he won't go ballistic if he sees you hanging out with your guy friends. The groundrules are that he can't even question you about it. Let us know what he says.
And btw, something tells me that if this dateship doesn't work out, it won't be due to you messing up....
^ This. Unless you are the POTUS, or such status, you don't ever approach me with a list of dating rules or be prepared for mine and a house note, car note and so on. WTH! Sorry just seems like a strange thing if it comes out of nowhere.
I met a guy who seems to be interested in a relationship. During our conversation, he started laying down some groundrules and one of them was that if I see him out with other women I can't get "angry" or question him about it. I asked if he is proposing an open relationship & he said no. He explained that he has lady friends and he doesn't want to be with a girl who is the jealous type. Is this a red flag? Do you think this guy may be a potential cheater or jerk? I really like him and I finally found someone who wants to be in a committed relationship with me and I don't want to mess up
Huge red flag. Run away from him. Ground rules my a$$$. Ground rules are something to be discussed by a couple. That guy sounds like a control freak and pot. Abusive.
I was in an abusive marriage for 8 years and can tell you, my ex did not bring the "rules" until later( when i was already vested)... So yeah stay away from this man. Huge red flag
if I see him out with other women I can't get "angry" or question him about it. I asked if he is proposing an open relationship & he said no. He explained that he has lady friends and he doesn't want to be with a girl who is the jealous type.
This makes it sound like you can't get angry or question him if you happen to run into him with another woman not that he has female friends he's being upfront with you about-telling you ahead of time he's having dinner with an old college buddy who's passing through town, for example. Something isn't sitting right here. If you can't ask about them, they probably aren't actually friends but other women he's dating.
I met a guy who seems to be interested in a relationship. During our conversation, he started laying down some groundrules and one of them was that if I see him out with other women I can't get "angry" or question him about it. I asked if he is proposing an open relationship & he said no. He explained that he has lady friends and he doesn't want to be with a girl who is the jealous type. Is this a red flag? Do you think this guy may be a potential cheater or jerk? I really like him and I finally found someone who wants to be in a committed relationship with me and I don't want to mess up
What did he say when you told him that if he sees you out with other men that he can't get angry or question you about it?
Because that's what you fired back with, right?
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