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You should have you done stopped deciding to go up to women that are decorative but have no conversation. The fact that the convo sputtered to nothing was not YOUR fault. She couldn't hit back the ball conversationally.
She decided to leave with an idiot because she didn't have to think at all with an idiot. What does that tell you about her as a person?
I get approached a lot. I LOVE the nervous ones. I treat them with humor and tender loving care, and get them so involved with telling me about themselves that they forget to be nervous. But if you ever meet a woman like me, I wouldn't leave with you anyway. I would never leave with a guy I met in a bar. It's just not a thing I would do.
Ah yes, so the woman is the idiot because he couldn't engage her in conversation.
It says nothing about her as a woman.
Because the OP said that the other guy was an idiot, he is?
Sounds like sour grapes and you're buying into it.
Kept talking to her. Asked her about herself/work/interests. Seriously, you need to ask? Clamming up and staring at her in awe is not a winning move. Women like that get tired of guys becoming tongue-tied.
Your story is a perfect example of why the "league" thing is bogus. She walked off with an average-looking dork. Congratulations.
Short story short.
A while ago I was in a club chatting up a woman. She was magnificent, every single guy in the bar couldn’t get their eyes off her. But you know what, I actually went to her and had something funny to tell her. She laughed. Luck was on my side.
But, as the discussion went on, I started to get more and more stressed and unconfident and in the end I was just looking at her, kind of hypnotized by her.
Afterwards, a stupid guy came up saying really stupid ****. I was just there, witnessing this thing happening right under my nose, and I was petrified, couldn’t make a move or say something.
Then she stopped talking to me altogether and left with the other guy, leaving me alone and stupid.
This has kinda shocked me psychologically and I am ready to do everything I can to not be humiliated like this again.
Where shall I start? Have you already experienced that kind of situations? What should have I done?
You aren't the only one. Happens to me everytime I try.
One time at a bar, I went up to these two girls and offered to buy them a drink.
They took the drinks and then when I was trying to chat them up, answered curtly in one word responses and barely even looked in my direction when responding.
So I walked away.
MAYBE 15 minutes later, some other guy came up to the bar and they were all laughing and getting super friendly with him. And they didn't know him, because I heard him come up and introduce.
They were two pretty average looking white gals. There's more stories just like it.
And I have a similar story from the opposite perspective.
Once upon a time, I was out dancing with some friends and I decided that I wanted a drink. On my way to the bar, I got stopped by a man who told me that he had been "watching me all night" (creepy) and liked my dancing (I'm not a terribly good dancer, but whatever, I have fun) and wanted to buy me a drink. I said yes because I was on my way to get one anyway, and I wasn't going to pass up a free one.
While we waited for my drink to be made, we had conversation about our jobs - he was an artist (or so he said). Since this is an interesting job, I wanted to know more, so we talked about art. During the conversation it became very clear that he was delusional, so I took my drink, thanked him, and walked away very quickly.
I'm sure to that guy, we had fantastic conversation and he has no idea what went wrong.
Not saying you guys are delusional or crazy, but...
Freud has widely been discredited by most of the current psychiatric community, just saying. Also, I don't really see what the story has to do with his theories.
And I have a similar story from the opposite perspective.
Once upon a time, I was out dancing with some friends and I decided that I wanted a drink. On my way to the bar, I got stopped by a man who told me that he had been "watching me all night" (creepy) and liked my dancing (I'm not a terribly good dancer, but whatever, I have fun) and wanted to buy me a drink. I said yes because I was on my way to get one anyway, and I wasn't going to pass up a free one.
While we waited for my drink to be made, we had conversation about our jobs - he was an artist (or so he said). Since this is an interesting job, I wanted to know more, so we talked about art. During the conversation it became very clear that he was delusional, so I took my drink, thanked him, and walked away very quickly.
I'm sure to that guy, we had fantastic conversation and he has no idea what went wrong.
Not saying you guys are delusional or crazy, but...
Interesting story. It takes all kinds. Just fyi, guys do go to clubs, bars and other venues to watch women dancing. Watch all that booty shaking, and see who has the best moves. It may sound creepy when someone confesses to you they've been doing that, but it's actually very common. I've heard guys comparing and discussing women dancing.
Where shall I start? Have you already experienced that kind of situations? What should have I done?
You were in a bar! There are no rules, words of wisdom, methods, etc. It's like being on a rollercoaster and tossing a coin. The thing could go in all sorts of directions!
[no further explanation needed - just carry on and one day it will be your day]
Interesting story. It takes all kinds. Just fyi, guys do go to clubs, bars and other venues to watch women dancing. Watch all that booty shaking, and see who has the best moves. It may sound creepy when someone confesses to you they've been doing that, but it's actually very common. I've heard guys comparing and discussing women dancing.
Oh, I know. It's part of the reason that my friends and I decide to skip dancing, more often than not. It was the first time that a man has ever blatantly said to me, "I've been watching you" though. I'd rather not have that information, even if I know that it is happening.
Freud has widely been discredited by most of the current psychiatric community, just saying. Also, I don't really see what the story has to do with his theories.
Yes, thank heaven. And the story doesn't relate, except for his famous quote (which only an ignorant loser would say, much less someone who claimed to have a lot of psychological insight--meh!)
Short story short.
Where shall I start? Have you already experienced that kind of situations? What should have I done?
Personally, I believe that you shouldn't take this personally. Tell yourself that if she is doing this to you, she's missing something incredible. I think this story happened to every man that actually tried something. And this you should be proud of: you tried, you are improving and you actually do something.
I don't know if it can be helpful but friends of mine recently advice me to read a book called The Five Dictums of Dating (The Five Dictums of Dating). It really helped me out, you might want to check it out.
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