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I'm not being judgmental or insulting to people who like texting. I don't know why some people are so sensitive. I love texting and I think it's really convenient sometimes, but when it comes to dating I feel like it speaks volumes about someone's interest level in you when they pick up the phone and call. What did people do 20 years ago? They had no other option but to pick up the phone.
Not every response is directed to you. Plenty here have been insulting, branding texters as lazy or lacking social skills or thoughtless or playing the field and so on. You probably wouldn't appreciate constantly hearing that callers are scatterbrains or illiterates or fast talkers.
People are different and have different preferences. Some prefer to talk and some prefer to text. Some would rather receive calls and some want to get texts. To assess someone's interest level based on whether they text or call seems silly to me. What's more important is what they say to you not the medium in which they say it. What if a guy texts everyone? Does that mean their interest level in everyone is low?
What did people do 120 years ago? They had no option to pick up the phone. Times change.
But we don't live 20 years, we live in 2012/2013. Whether you like it or not texting is a accepted form of communication(especially among young people). Hell Walgreens text me when my prescription are ready, my bank text me my balance information. It just the way it is. It's the same way email replaced physical mail.
I don't think anyone who has posted in this thread has a problem with texting all together. (correct me if I'm wrong) The complaint that some have, is the complete substituting of texting for actual phone conversation. When both people are clearly available to talk on the phone and the topic of conversation requires some back and forth, I find it odd, impersonal and dull to text.
A guy I've hung out with once texted me last night to see if I wanted to hang out this week. He then proceeded to tell me that he had been through my hometown on the weekend and sent me a laundry list of complaints about what he observed and disliked about it. It really pissed me off. Not only do I have hometown pride - I mean, I spent 25 years there - why the hell are you complaining to me about things like the city layout and the landscape? That can't be helped. And it's a strange thing to complain about via text, especially to someone you've met once. I mean, I know the city has faults and what not but couldn't that be an in-person discussion topic? I'm not sure if I should write him off just yet but it definitely soured me on the whole thing.
I don't think anyone who has posted in this thread has a problem with texting all together. (correct me if I'm wrong) The complaint that some have, is the complete substituting of texting for actual phone conversation. When both people are clearly available to talk on the phone and the topic of conversation requires some back and forth, I find it odd, impersonal and dull to text.
Because you have people like who hate talking on the phone. I'm not a teenager anymore. When I was in middle school, high school I loved talking on the phone. Calling girls, calling people on three way. I have better things to do with my time now, talking on the phone is a bore now. Like I said earlier if somebody really wants to talk to me, they can come over, or we can go grab lunch, or hit up happy our and have some drinks. But talking on the phone just for meaningless talking, I'll pass.
I don't think anyone who has posted in this thread has a problem with texting all together. (correct me if I'm wrong) The complaint that some have, is the complete substituting of texting for actual phone conversation. When both people are clearly available to talk on the phone and the topic of conversation requires some back and forth, I find it odd, impersonal and dull to text.
I do agree with this, and not just in a dating context. If it takes more than two texts to convey the information, it's just easier to pick up the phone.
For example:
Them: We still on for tonight?
Me: Yep, what do you want to do?
Them: I don't know, what do you want to do? Movie?
At this point I will call the other person, because it's tedious to have a back and forth conversation by text that can be knocked out in a 2 minute phone call. Has nothing to do with loving or hating to talk on the phone.
Because you have people like who hate talking on the phone. I'm not a teenager anymore. When I was in middle school, high school I loved talking on the phone. Calling girls, calling people on three way. I have better things to do with my time now, talking on the phone is a bore now. Like I said earlier if somebody really wants to talk to me, they can come over, or we can go grab lunch, or hit up happy our and have some drinks. But talking on the phone just for meaningless talking, I'll pass.
Grown ups have grown up conversations on the phone, not high school conversations. I wasn't implying that phone call were hour long gossip fests or to talk about what I bought at the mall.
I usually just talk on the phone a short time and with some purpose. It's a time saver, given that you can get some back and forth communication done all at once. If I want to get off of the phone, I say so.
Grown ups have grown up conversations on the phone, not high school conversations. I wasn't implying that phone call were hour long gossip fests or to talk about what I bought at the mall.
I usually just talk on the phone a short time and with some purpose. It's a time saver, given that you can get some back and forth communication done all at once. If I want to get off of the phone, I say so.
This. I set up a second date with someone over the phone last night. It lasted maybe 5 minutes, we each say hey how are you, exchanged minor chit chat about the weekend, and made a place and time for our date tonight. Then we said okay great, see you tomorrow. Conversations don't need to last hours and then we had a plan and I could go about my business not going back and forth via a texting conversation.
The thing that I dislike (read: hate) about texting is how someone, in the beginning stages of a relationship, assumes a familiarity with me and asks personal questions they would not ask in person. Just because you have my digits, does not mean we are best friends.
I have no problem kicking people, who show disrespect like that, back into line.
I don't call people when I date. I talk in person or text. I don't have any social problems, nor do I have a fear of talking on the phone.
Has nothing to do with being a man, having no fear or social skills. Some people simply hate talking on the phone.
I'm betting your still single. Right?
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