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If I'm dressed for attention, I don't mind if guys look. It's my husband who minds. But then he also seems to think I should exist for his enjoyment alone, in every conceivable aspect of life. Whateva.
THAT'S what I don't get. That territoriality thing. He says he's not afraid of me being assaulted, but "what if some other guy comes along and says all the right things?" Really? I'm supposed to be weak and stupid enough to swoon for some magical pickup line and run away from husband and kids, unless he is present to scare away his rival and secure his claim? Color me confused...
Men often say they will never really understand women...guys, you are not alone. I will never really understand men either.
MrRational, thank you so much for the laugh...though it's been years since I watched Friends I loved that line then and I love it now. I jokingly use it myself. Mostly to other females. But still.
A lot of times, that's the trick right there. Would his advances be welcome? Women like to look beautiful. And we have differing ideas of what that means, but we all like to gaze into the mirror before leaving the house and be like "Damn. I'm amazing."
It does not give any and every male implicit permission to have a go at her, it is not like putting an "OPEN" sign on a storefront. She still reserves the right to be as selective as she would ever be. Maybe she only likes girls. So she dressed like that for ladies, or for herself. I'd dress that way to go out with my husband in the hopes that he'd be proud to have me by his side.
Any guy is welcome to look, so long as he's discreet and socially normal about it...too obvious is not only weird, it comes off as judgmental and therefore offensive.
Ultimately, if you noticeably appreciate her assets, and you are her type, she won't mind you looking...if you are NOT her type (for whatever reason) she will respond negatively. And this is why if you're a guy, it makes sense to be discreet about your looking, because you've got no way of knowing whether she sees you as a potential match or a "creepy" guy.
(Creepy is just another word for a person who gives an excess of unwanted attention and doesn't take a clue when it's time to stop, back off, and go away. Chicks can be creepy too.)
One of the best days of my life was when I got sick on a motorcycle trip and the group I was with, left me in a hotel room in northern California to recuperate.
The next day I climbed on my V-Strom, put Gov't Mule's The Deepest End on the iPod and headed north through the redwoods. It was an incredible day.
I got to Ashland, Oregon about three hours ahead of the rest of the group and spent much of that time on a park bench in downtown Ashland listening to music and enjoying my own company. Being a college town and the early summer, the women were dressed to impress, and for a while I discretely watched from behind the mirrored lenses of my sunglasses. Not one person paid attention to me. I decided to perform an experiment, pushed my sunglasses up on top of my head and watched very non-discretely. I was smiled at, winked at, waved to more than I ever would have expected.
Granted these were mostly young woman, but it was quite apparent that there is a fairly significant population of women who enjoy being appreciated.
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