For those of you who won't date single parents (2014, call, spouses)
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That's over generalizing iddy. And I know many who dated a single dads or moms. And that new person became a better parent than the real one. My dad was a single parent. My sister's friend's mom was a single mother and married a very well known famous man around here. Sometimes single parents should marry other single parents. And some recovering acholics should date other recovering acholics. Know what they been through. But it doesn't always happen that way. My mom loved my dad for the person he is. You should try it.
Why should I try dating a dad? I don't want to support his kids or worse his exwife (or baby mama if he is low class). Why would I want to work my life around his other family? Why would I want to experience drama? Not to mention not being able to marry in church because he is divorced (and no, marrying in a courthouse would not be a real marriage to me).
So nope this is something I will not try (and oddly I have which is why I advise against it). I will continue to tell childless people to run like heck away from single parents unless they enjoy seeing their paycheck go towards other people or enjoy drama. Instead perhaps the parents in many cases should try staying together instead of expecting others to pick up their mess.
Good, YOU raise all those abandoned kids, from lousy parents. Better you than me.
Yep I have to admit most of the kids from broken homes have lousy parents. Sorry but I really think the best family for a kid is two married parents and I stick by that. I realize some divorces do happen and so do some (very few)out of wedlock pregnancies for a reason but in most cases most are unjustified.
I dare say it. A single parent is damaged goods. Only single parents should date single parents.
I wouldn't say all are damaged goods but many are. A single parent raising a kid in a good situation where they are supporting the kid and so is the other parent and there is no drama or any issues is not damaged goods. However situations where they want a childless person so that person can help support the kid or expect the childless to be willing to be a parent are damaged goods. A person with multiple out of wedlock children is damaged goods and someone with multiple baby mamas/baby daddies is a damaged person who is also a sociopath. Yes single parents should stick to other single parents and childless should avoid them in most cases.
People who don't want to date single parents, shouldn't date single parents and no one should try to convince them otherwise. People that don't want to have their own kids, shouldn't have their own kids and no one should try to convince them otherwise. I'll never understand the reasoning behind people who think everyone should have kids. I'll never understand the reasoning behind those who think everyone should be like them. Just let other people live their lives however they please.
When I was single, I didn't date single parents. I wouldn't have made a good step-parent. It was a good thing that I didn't have any interest in being a step-mother and recognized my limitations.
I don't think single parents are damaged goods, but I go agree with the second statement.
Ya know, it's funny when I hear people say that single parents should date each other...because I know a few single Moms and it's NEVER been an issue for them to date childless men. I mean, one had 2 boyfriends while she was pregnant, and now is in a long term relationship with another guy. Of course, these women are really really attractive and it's amazing how many men will 'overlook' the child thing if the woman in question is pretty enough.
Ya know, it's funny when I hear people say that single parents should date each other...because I know a few single Moms and it's NEVER been an issue for them to date childless men. I mean, one had 2 boyfriends while she was pregnant, and now is in a long term relationship with another guy. Of course, these women are really really attractive and it's amazing how many men will 'overlook' the child thing if the woman in question is pretty enough.
I've noticed that as well. If she's pretty, it's not a problem. I would have thought the frumpy unattached single woman would be the easier sell, but IRL that isn't what I see happening.
Ya know, it's funny when I hear people say that single parents should date each other...because I know a few single Moms and it's NEVER been an issue for them to date childless men. I mean, one had 2 boyfriends while she was pregnant, and now is in a long term relationship with another guy. Of course, these women are really really attractive and it's amazing how many men will 'overlook' the child thing if the woman in question is pretty enough.
If that's the only reason those men are dating women, that's called superficiality.
People who don't want to date single parents, shouldn't date single parents and no one should try to convince them otherwise. People that don't want to have their own kids, shouldn't have their own kids and no one should try to convince them otherwise. I'll never understand the reasoning behind people who think everyone should have kids. I'll never understand the reasoning behind those who think everyone should be like them. Just let other people live their lives however they please.
When I was single, I didn't date single parents. I wouldn't have made a good step-parent. It was a good thing that I didn't have any interest in being a step-mother and recognized my limitations.
I'd probably make a decent step mother but am not interested in being one if the mom is in the picture. In that situation (by far the most common)the step mother is usually just another person supporting the kid and possibly the ex and that would make me angry. I have seen many cases of the new spouse supporting the children and the ex yet getting nothing in return because they aren't the parents. It's a bit different in cases of widowed parents and those who adopted as single parents because there is not the other parent in the picture. The fact for me is I also don't want to be in control of someone else and this is the case when there are a previous spouse and kids in the picture. People often accuse me of hating kids but it's rarely an issue with the kids, though it could be.
I did date single dad, which is why I avoid them now. Hard to like a guy who can only take me to McDonalds and a budget movie because his ex gets most of his money. Or to like having a guy brings his kid on a date when I am paying and I end up buying dinner for the kid. Or to like not getting Christmas or birthday presents because he can't afford it. Or to like that if I married him I would be broke like him when his ex goes after him for more money because of my salary.
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