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And you're not a man, so you will never have have to worry about being doubtful if a child is yours or not.
That's true. But I am a parent. Maybe it's just me - but being a parent changes the way I see most things. I can't look at a child in a situation like this with out imagining that it's my own child. And from the day I had him - he comes first for me.
That's true. But I am a parent. Maybe it's just me - but being a parent changes the way I see most things. I can't look at a child in a situation like this with out imagining that it's my own child. And from the day I had him - he comes first for me.
By not disinheriting and disclaiming the kids. By not blathering on about "mourning" them as though they were dead. By not taking his anger at his ex-wife out on them. By continuing to be a father to them.
It's pretty clear you've never raised a child. Anyone who can do what that guy did doesn't deserve to have kids. Please don't have any.
That's true. But I am a parent.Maybe it's just me - but being a parent changes the way I see most things. I can't look at a child in a situation like this with out imagining that it's my own child. And from the day I had him - he comes first for me.
But you're a parent of a child that you know is yours. I doubt you would look at your child in the same manner if the hospital called you one day and told you they made a mistake and sent you home with the wrong baby.
Of course he is - why wouldn't he be? Our son comes first for him, too. I can't see how it could be any other way.
And this is why when couples have kids, the romantic aspect of the relationship starts to go south. Again, I do hope everything works out for you Dew93.
By not disinheriting and disclaiming the kids. By not blathering on about "mourning" them as though they were dead. By not taking his anger at his ex-wife out on them. By continuing to be a father to them.
It's pretty clear you've never raised a child. Anyone who can do what that guy did doesn't deserve to have kids. Please don't have any.
Don't act like it's some honor to breed. There is no honor in doing something that biologically natural to you. I guess there is honor in taking a dump because they are on the same level. As Chris Rock said, "Even roaches have kids." Unless there is a problem with you, everyone has the ability to breed. That's also why it is so difficult and you have to use outside measures to not breed. Nature wants you to.
Ironically enough, the imbeciles are the ones who mindlessly breed while people who make informed decisions about not wanting to have any spawn are probably more intelligent people because they actually took the time to think about it.
But you're a parent of a child that you know is yours. I doubt you would look at your child in the same manner if the hospital called you one day and told you they made a mistake and sent you home with the wrong baby.
Honestly - it wouldn't make a bit of difference and I would never be able to give him up. It's probably impossible to understand if you are not a parent. I love my son more than anything in the world - finding out he wasn't my biological son would not change that.
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And this is why when couples have kids, the romantic aspect of the relationship starts to go south. Again, I do hope everything works out for you Dew93.
It hasn't gone south at all. If anything - we are even more in love with each other now than we were before. Having a child has brought us closer together. It seems that men who don't have children think that "baby comes first" means that the wife stops paying any attention to her husband or loving him whatsoever. Only the most selfish of fathers would resent their child for being an important part of their lives. My husband loves spending time with his family - meaning all of us together. He can't wait to get home from work to see us. Just because our son comes first, that doesn't mean that our relationship doesn't matter. I look at my husband in a whole different way now. I see how much he loves our son and it melts my heart. And I tell him so all the time.
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