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As for friends - maybe. I've stayed friends with many exes. Do so only if you can set and keep boundaries, and there is something to value in a friendship.
OP, I really believe that too busy line is just that - a line. If someone is crazy for you they make time. How would you feel if in a few months from now he met someone else and was a wonderful boyfriend? If it would bother you then I don't think you should be friends with him. I think the only time being friends after dating works is when both people mutually decide to break up. I don't see how it's possible to remain friends with someone you still have romantic feelings for. Maybe after some time has passed and you've gotten over him then it will be possible.
Just a little more background. No, he was not only after the sex because during our whole relationship (18 months, and we're in our early 40's BTW), there were times when we would see each other and NOT have sex. We would spend overnights over each other houses and not have sex, just to be together. I had something medically wrong with me and we could not have sex for over a month and he still stood with me and he was very supportive. He said that if he could not make me happy and if I ever broke it off that he would want to see me happy even if that means me being with someone else. But, he still wanted to be my friend, no strings attached. He wants to make sure I am good and that I don't need anything. The FWB came up once in the past. Maybe he was joking??
Yes, he is a sh*ty relationship guy. But he was very serious about me and we were exclusive to each other. He wanted me to move in with him and be with him forever. I met all his family and went to their houses and met their kids so I know I was not just a fling-thing or just a booty-call. He is just too-too busy.
Sooooo, considering all those things, should I just remain friends with him? I have read about people breaking up because they were not a good match, but remained friends.
AverageGuy2006 wrote:
"Basically, he did what he wanted, when he wanted, and then when HE WANTED, he made time for you. This guy is bad at romantic relationships.
People like him shouldn't be in relationships, as he is clearly not ready to settle down. If he was, he would have made time for you before it was too late. "
YES...you are sooooo right!!! He may be bad at romantic relationships, but good as a friend, no?
NO. Walk away. Because once you've made the beast with two backs for a year and a half, there's really no going back. Cold turkey. Because otherwise, you'll always be trying in the back of your mind to make it something serious again.
I hate the term "FWB" so I wouldn't use it to describe any of my relationships, but I have remained friends with some exes and in some cases we've had sex after we were no longer referring to ourselves as dating or boyfriend/girlfriend.
Last edited by Plzeň; 01-24-2013 at 02:29 PM..
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