Bf cheated and I sort of got back at him (boyfriend, woman)
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Can this relationship still work out? He cheated 7 months ago but I'm still hurt about it. He has shown remorse and does wants this to work.
Now here is a different issue: At some point, I reconnected with an old high school crush (Joseph) online but then we started talking more often. Anyways I didn't have sex but did some other things and this happened just last month. Though I like him, I'm going to work on my relationship. He doesn't know and will never find out. Joseph knows the situation too but won't tell and yes we're still talking on facebook sometimes. Though we've made it clear there won't be any intimate contact no more, just as friends.
I still love him but I'm still hurting at the same time. I keep wondering why he didn't have any self-control if he claims to loving me.
I'm still having a hard time getting over everything I imagine he did with the other woman. Sometimes it makes me not even want to kiss him. Currently, I'm making him work on getting my trust back.
If your bf/gf cheats on you, but then somehow you both decided to work out but you cheat back, do they even deserve to know this? I'm really not planning on saying a word about this Joseph thing. Like mentioned at least I didn't went all the way with him.
If he never knows about Joseph then you aren't any better than your BF. Especially if you make him put in all the effort to work on rekindling your relationship.
Can this relationship still work out? He cheated 7 months ago but I'm still hurt about it. He has shown remorse and does wants this to work.
Now here is a different issue: At some point, I reconnected with an old high school crush (Joseph) online but then we started talking more often. Anyways I didn't have sex but did some other things and this happened just last month. Though I like him, I'm going to work on my relationship. He doesn't know and will never find out. Joseph knows the situation too but won't tell and yes we're still talking on facebook sometimes. Though we've made it clear there won't be any intimate contact no more, just as friends.
I still love him but I'm still hurting at the same time. I keep wondering why he didn't have any self-control if he claims to loving me.
I'm still having a hard time getting over everything I imagine he did with the other woman. Sometimes it makes me not even want to kiss him. Currently, I'm making him work on getting my trust back.
If your bf/gf cheats on you, but then somehow you both decided to work out but you cheat back, do they even deserve to know this? I'm really not planning on saying a word about this Joseph thing. Like mentioned at least I didn't went all the way with him.
If he never knows about Joseph then you aren't any better than your BF. Especially if you make him put in all the effort to work on rekindling your relationship.
But Joseph and I have made it clear that we're just going to be friends from now on and none of this is going to happen again. Besides my bf didn't even tell me about his cheating. I had to find out not only from the girl but also from an inbox he left open on his hotmail account.
If he didn't confess, then I don't know why should I tell about my this little incident. Maybe if he has tell me himself then I would do the same.
Just because you didn't have sex with this other guy doesn't make you any less of a cheater than your boyfriend in my view. If you couldn't forgive your boyfriend for cheating you should have ended the relationship. Neither one of you really seems to value the relationship, I think you should just learn from your mistakes and move on apart.
Next time you're feeling the urge to "get back at" someone you're in a relationship with, just do yourself and your partner a favor and end the relationship. Why stay in it just to hurt each other?
Just because you didn't have sex with this other guy doesn't make you any less of a cheater than your boyfriend in my view. If you couldn't forgive your boyfriend for cheating you should have ended the relationship. Neither one of you really seems to value the relationship, I think you should just learn from your mistakes and move on apart.
I'm starting to forgive but it's not easy, esp when you still care about the person and they seem remorseful but you're still hurting. But if within 6 months I don't see it improving then I'll consider breaking up but won't tell him about my cheating.
you should be worried what YOU deserve over what someone else does.
think about that for a few seconds.
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