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Hi all, I figured I would start this thread to see what others outside my immediate friend group think of my preference. I'm 18, and haven't dated a girl in years. The last time I remember having any kind of serious relationship was when I dated a fairly insightful, mature, yet very insecure girl in 7th grade. Although I know it's easy to assume the relationship was nothing but a product of raging adolescent hormones, I do believe that it taught me knowledge about dating that I remember to this day.
Anyway, I've found that now as I'm entering the realm of young adulthood I have significant trouble connecting with girls my age due to what I perceive as their excessive emphasis on superficiality/trivialities (i.e. "I'm so upset because Johnny Dean broke up with my best friend, let me vent on twitter, or "Do you like my handbag? I got it at Saks Fifth Avenue.") Certainly any male who pays attention to this kind of thing can understand where I'm coming from. It is very frustrating because I feel like I have a fair amount to offer as a future partner, etc.
Also, girls don't seem to pay much attention to me which is partly due to the fact that I'm introverted. I'm not very "alpha male" acting and tend to be fairly quiet and reserved most of the time. I don't enjoy talking to Billy Smith at the bar about football and drankin' the brew, if you know what I mean.
So I've come to the consensus that I am much more attracted to very fine older women who are culturally aware and enjoy having logical debates. The maturity and the brains that come along with a few extra years are very worth pursuing.
Would I come off as very strange if I asked an older woman about her political preference while sipping a mimosa at the bar? Is that an inappropriate approach?
Anyone with any experience on this topic that can offer insight is greatly appreciated.
Hi all, I figured I would start this thread to see what others outside my immediate friend group think of my preference. I'm 18, and haven't dated a girl in years. The last time I remember having any kind of serious relationship was when I dated a fairly insightful, mature, yet very insecure girl in 7th grade. Although I know it's easy to assume the relationship was nothing but a product of raging adolescent hormones, I do believe that it taught me knowledge about dating that I remember to this day.
Anyway, I've found that now as I'm entering the realm of young adulthood I have significant trouble connecting with girls my age due to what I perceive as their excessive emphasis on superficiality/trivialities (i.e. "I'm so upset because Johnny Dean broke up with my best friend, let me vent on twitter, or "Do you like my handbag? I got it at Saks Fifth Avenue.") Certainly any male who pays attention to this kind of thing can understand where I'm coming from. It is very frustrating because I feel like I have a fair amount to offer as a future partner, etc.
Also, girls don't seem to pay much attention to me which is partly due to the fact that I'm introverted. I'm not very "alpha male" acting and tend to be fairly quiet and reserved most of the time. I don't enjoy talking to Billy Smith at the bar about football and drankin' the brew, if you know what I mean.
So I've come to the consensus that I am much more attracted to very fine older women who are culturally aware and enjoy having logical debates. The maturity and the brains that come along with a few extra years are very worth pursuing.
Would I come off as very strange if I asked an older woman about her political preference while sipping a mimosa at the bar? Is that an inappropriate approach?
Anyone with any experience on this topic that can offer insight is greatly appreciated.
I think the key is finding out what kinds of places older women hang out at. You can probably get a good sense of the types of opening lines to ask them based on where they hang out and what they're drinking.
You don't need to be an alpha male. Join groups, activities, organizations where you can get to know women gradually, rather than having to try to come up with cold approaches. Look for geeky girls, intellectuals, musicians, etc. They would be happy to get to know you. They're not hard to find if you know where to look. Are you in college? Look for more serious girls in language or science classes, the music or art department, tech clubs, working on the school newspaper, etc. Join weekend sports leagues or hiking or ski clubs. Volunteer for political action groups, animal shelters, park maintenance crews or enviro orgs.
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 02-13-2013 at 06:39 PM..
Hi all, I figured I would start this thread to see what others outside my immediate friend group think of my preference. I'm 18, and haven't dated a girl in years. The last time I remember having any kind of serious relationship was when I dated a fairly insightful, mature, yet very insecure girl in 7th grade. Although I know it's easy to assume the relationship was nothing but a product of raging adolescent hormones, I do believe that it taught me knowledge about dating that I remember to this day.
Anyway, I've found that now as I'm entering the realm of young adulthood I have significant trouble connecting with girls my age due to what I perceive as their excessive emphasis on superficiality/trivialities (i.e. "I'm so upset because Johnny Dean broke up with my best friend, let me vent on twitter, or "Do you like my handbag? I got it at Saks Fifth Avenue.") Certainly any male who pays attention to this kind of thing can understand where I'm coming from. It is very frustrating because I feel like I have a fair amount to offer as a future partner, etc.
Also, girls don't seem to pay much attention to me which is partly due to the fact that I'm introverted. I'm not very "alpha male" acting and tend to be fairly quiet and reserved most of the time. I don't enjoy talking to Billy Smith at the bar about football and drankin' the brew, if you know what I mean.
So I've come to the consensus that I am much more attracted to very fine older women who are culturally aware and enjoy having logical debates. The maturity and the brains that come along with a few extra years are very worth pursuing.
Would I come off as very strange if I asked an older woman about her political preference while sipping a mimosa at the bar? Is that an inappropriate approach?
Anyone with any experience on this topic that can offer insight is greatly appreciated.
Mod cut: Gross generalizations.
Logical debates are cool, but if you're seeking logical debating, first secure that you progress with your school and get a job. No relationship can be serious when you didn't resolve those things. After that , you can do everything else. After you finish school and get any job, you are your own man. Until then, you are only nominally an adult - you depend on your parents and it's only the legal law that makes you an adult... you're still eating their food and you contribute nothing in a house's functioning, and that house isn't even yours.
Hi all, I figured I would start this thread to see what others outside my immediate friend group think of my preference. I'm 18, and haven't dated a girl in years. The last time I remember having any kind of serious relationship was when I dated a fairly insightful, mature, yet very insecure girl in 7th grade. Although I know it's easy to assume the relationship was nothing but a product of raging adolescent hormones, I do believe that it taught me knowledge about dating that I remember to this day.
Anyway, I've found that now as I'm entering the realm of young adulthood I have significant trouble connecting with girls my age due to what I perceive as their excessive emphasis on superficiality/trivialities (i.e. "I'm so upset because Johnny Dean broke up with my best friend, let me vent on twitter, or "Do you like my handbag? I got it at Saks Fifth Avenue.") Certainly any male who pays attention to this kind of thing can understand where I'm coming from. It is very frustrating because I feel like I have a fair amount to offer as a future partner, etc.
Also, girls don't seem to pay much attention to me which is partly due to the fact that I'm introverted. I'm not very "alpha male" acting and tend to be fairly quiet and reserved most of the time. I don't enjoy talking to Billy Smith at the bar about football and drankin' the brew, if you know what I mean.
So I've come to the consensus that I am much more attracted to very fine older women who are culturally aware and enjoy having logical debates. The maturity and the brains that come along with a few extra years are very worth pursuing.
Would I come off as very strange if I asked an older woman about her political preference while sipping a mimosa at the bar? Is that an inappropriate approach?
Anyone with any experience on this topic that can offer insight is greatly appreciated.
NEVER discuss politics or religion with somebody you just meet! Yes older women can be hot. But you're 18, what do you consider "older"?
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